she's kindhearted and truly a good friend. but she always contradict with herself and makes herself seem like a passive liar... sometimes she would say this and then two days later, her whole outloook is different.. what should i do?
2007-01-05 15:05:22 · 9 answers · asked by lelenguyen05 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Some people are like that, especially when they are having a compliant personality. Is she gentle, and soft-hearted,, or avoid conflict type of person? Was she telling white lies? sometimes it is not all white lies. I have a girlfriend contradicting herself once in a while. I make judgment by her intention/motivation. I never confronted her, because she is always kind to me, and what she said won't hurt me or impact me anyways, (because I spot it out right away). I don't know what i did, after four years I know her, she does not do that to me any more. Maybe she found I ignored her words when she was contradicting herself, was it a silent disapproval? She is quite smart and sensitive. Or she sensed I knew the truth anyway, or even though she had told me the truth, I wouldn't embarrass her, or she wouldn't look bad in front of me anyways. I also found she has become more assertive... like me. :) I thought this might be your case.
On the other hand, if you sense your best friend contradicting herself, with bad intention, i.e., try to put you down or treat to win... She may have character problem. If she is too "off", or has bad impact on you, you may need to confront her. But this doesn't sound like your case. Hope this helps.
2007-01-05 15:31:07 · answer #1 · answered by Kate S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Help her with the contradictions with the goal being to erase them from your best friend's way of thinking and improve her outlook of presentations.
2007-01-05 15:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by fran t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax, she's merely fooling around with you. I dont think of she needs to this factor you. She's probable out of your league and is merely breaking your bb's. I play with my hair each and every of the time and it doesnt imply i want to sleep with absolutely everyone. end examining into issues. It doesnt imply a rattling factor. She's merely being friendly and taking section in you....rejoice with the friendship....it is frequently stable to have pals. Im specific you're making comments to her too.
2016-10-06 12:32:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
correct her from time to time but u dnt have to be so argumentative and confrontational about it.. just ask her simply what she meant previously and what she means now... don't be accusatory as well.. ur friend might be totally unaware of what she is doing.. kinda like someone living in their dream fantasy world.. just wake her up from time to time and u guys will have lots of fun!
2007-01-05 15:10:52 · answer #4 · answered by msweets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just discovering who she is and learning to create her own identity. Just listen. Don't judge or contradict.
2007-01-05 15:09:30 · answer #5 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reply to the reply...i am not speaking form a guy... i am the guy...what is your problem about men in swimming costume??? i can figure it out but it would be better if YOU figure it out...Look for help! or accept yourself
2007-01-05 15:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by whoknows 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either accept your friend, as she is, or find a new friend.
2007-01-05 15:08:06 · answer #7 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is just how she is!!
she may get annoying but if shes a true friens thats all it counts!
2007-01-05 15:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by roxy j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
accept your friend.
2007-01-05 15:10:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋