I don't know if I'm out of the loop here, but I just heard about the idea of a "pushing present" today on the radio. I know my own thoughts on the matter here, but I wondering what yours are?
If you think it is a good idea, what do you think is an appropriate gift? Where and when should it be given?
Also, shouldn't I get my boyfriend a gift for being such a great support to me and the mental and emotional stress of seeing what is happening to me and not being able to do much for me?
If you are out of the loop as much as I am, it is a gift given to the new mother by the father as a reward to giving birth, basically.
2007-01-05 15:00:09 · 7 answers · asked by Noota Oolah 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If I had extra money to spend when I had the Baby I would give it to a 3rd world orphanage. I had a high risk pregnancy and both me and my husband suffered together and having our baby girl was the most blessed gift given to us from above. To think of all the mothers in the 3rd world who do not have doctors or support broke my heart. My Husband did not have to bribe me to have his baby. Don't let some high society people with too much money on their hands make you feel you need a present from your spouse to celebrate a baby in your life.
2007-01-05 15:21:56 · answer #1 · answered by jewelsthomas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be kinda nice to get a little present after giving birth. I wouldn't say anything extravagant or anything but a gift certificate for a massage or a spa day would be nice. Or maybe even just flowers or an IOU for a romantic night out without the baby. I would probably say that it's best to give after it's quited down and the visitors have left. It seems like a private kind of thing. But it seems like a sweet gesture if the husband really means it. Something to say "I love you and I appreciate all your work bringing this baby into the world!" I don't think it should become some kind of requirement though. Gifts don't really mean much if you HAVE to give them. They are always best when you WANT to give them.
I know that after I gave birth, I felt disgusting and tired and sore (emergency C-section after 42 hours of labor and almost 4 hours of pushing!) And then everyone pretty much ignored me in favor of the baby (not that I blame them now because he's so much cuter than me). I felt like crying but I felt guilty for not being happy. And then one of my mom's friends came by to visit and she gave ME a present. It wasn't much. Just some body wash and lotion and stuff but it felt really good just the same.
2007-01-05 23:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by heather_palmer580 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men do give their wives a gift to commemorate the birth of a baby. In Marseilles, France, the mother is given golden chains for her neck.
My husband gave me a bottle of very pricey perfume and had a ring and bracelet made for me with a custom artist.
I think it is nice, if you can afford the gifts. I never heard of it being called a "pushing present" but men usually do give their wives a gift when their child is born.
2007-01-05 23:10:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am about 39 weeks...I doubt I will get one. I will not give one to my husband...the gift you give him is the baby!! That's why the dad gives you a gift...the push present is a gift as a thank you for delivering it! And the gift for the father is the baby! Anyway, I think the gift of choice is some kind of jewelry...maybe something that says "mom" or something...a necklace, or one of those cute birthstone rings with the baby's birthstone on it...that's what I want but it is hard to request presents:).
2007-01-05 23:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by Erika H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave birth 12 days ago and my husband is letting me pick out some jewelry once I get better. I told him he didn't have to, but he insisted :)
2007-01-06 00:46:21 · answer #5 · answered by Huliganjetta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds nice. I wish my husband would have thought of a little something. You know a bouquet of flowers, perhaps a card.
2007-01-05 23:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by suz' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never heard of such an idea.
2007-01-05 23:06:36 · answer #7 · answered by kabmiller@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋