My husband was in Afghanistan for Christmas & asked that I get his mother a nice gift from L'Occitane. I LOVE the store! It's an amazing (and expensive) boutique carrying THE BEST body products. My husband bought my mother a L'Occitane gift a year ago and she STILL can't stop talking about how much she loved it. She, like myself, has been addicted since.
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I know my mother-in-law loves shea butter so I got her a body lotion, a hand & a foot cream, and a bar of honey soap. (about $70 total). I gave it to her on Christmas eve. She didn't call me for Christmas but that's another issue. It's 11 days after Christmas & I was wondering why she hadn't said anything about it. She had my car for a while & just gave it back. She came by today to get her things out of my trunk. I looked in the trunk and realized the gift was thrown in there UNOPENED & UNTOUCHED. It was still in the bag! I'm offended and just want to keep it for myself. How would you feel and react?
2007-01-05 14:52:44 · 17 answers · asked by Aniyah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She may have simply overlooked it. People get busy, and things slip their mind sometimes. I would mention it to her; I bet she will be delighted to get the gift!
2007-01-05 14:56:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How would I feel? Hurt, angry, so many emotions I can't name them all. What would I do? I would probably put on my biggest smile, go see her, tell her you found her gift and didn't know if she had misplaced it or what. If she takes the gift sit down and say "please open it now! I can't wait to see how you like it!" Put her on the spot baby! Obviously if you gave it to her she knew it was there. I have a Mother-in-law that started out like that. After a few years of snide remarks, meddling every chance she got and slighting me and my 18mo old son I decided to fight back. I used the kill her with kindness method. Are we best friends? Hardly. But she is my husband's mother so I grin and bear most things. I am not telling you to take everything she dishes out but I bet if you think about it you can probably turn things to your advantage. If your husband is now home tell him before you do anything but don't try to pit him against her. That will only play into her hands. If your husband is in the military you have enough to deal with without a jealous mother-in-law so if worse comes to worse just keep your distance as much as possible. I wish you all the best and hope I have helped a little. My prayers are with you and your husband.
2007-01-05 15:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by fishergirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like an evil mother in law. The sneaky kind that do things that can be interperated two ways. For example if you tell your hubby and he asks her she could say she didn't know it was in there, or she forgot. Simple mistake.
But this is what evil mother in laws do to make you turn on each other. She would have done it on purpose so that she can drive a wedge between you too.
Some mothers just can't give up their sons. Watch your back. Oh, and start rubbing on the body butter - it's yours fair and square.
2007-01-05 14:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by Charlie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Logoff the computer, go down to your car, take the gift out of the trunk. Come back into the house, open up the 'unopened gift' run your bath water, pour yourself a glass of wine, break out the bar of honey soap, slather it all over...soak in the tub for 40 minutes...
get out of the tub, slather in the body lotion, then slather your hands & feet with the creams....
you can't make people appreciate the finer things, but you can d*** sure enjoy them for yourself.
2007-01-05 15:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by Bobby Boucher 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that she knows that is for her? Maybe you should act like nothing happened, and say, Hi mom, you forgot about my give, it is still in the car. Were you looking for it?
I know that it is suck to have a mother in law like that. But you have to suck it up. First, she is older than you, she is your husband's mom and you don't want her to hate you while your husband is away. I think that if you acted like nothing happened on things that hurting you, she may change her heart and open it for you. Good luck.
2007-01-05 15:23:11 · answer #5 · answered by artbaowa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandma had a Gift certificate I gave her to a pottery store three years after I gave it to her. Under the front seat of her car. The gift certificate itself was made of pottery, and she said she liked the gift certificate better than whatever she would have bought with it. I just waited until she asked me to clean out her car, and took it back.
2007-01-05 15:07:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be hurt, but you don't seem really close to her, if its still like that in three months take it back, but don't make it obvious. Don't let her know it bothers you. My aunt actually lacked class enough to tell my mother straight out that she didn't like my mom's gift and would have prefered a gift card so she could buy what she wanted herself
2007-01-08 13:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by Krista 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mention to her that she left the gift in the trunk of the car and give it to her again. Don't act as if you are offended, she may have forgotten it, or she may be being a b i t c h.
2007-01-05 14:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by Lolitta 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just keep it to yourself and stop trying to justify this action by saying that you feel offended by her actions! Your husband, also her son, was in Afghanistan for Christmas, has it occurred to you that she had a lot more to worry about than material stuff?!
2007-01-05 15:28:04 · answer #9 · answered by Adele B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it possible that she forgot about it in the trunk? i would actually be upfront and say something like, "oh, you must have forgotten about the present we gave you." then at least she's forced to respond to this by either admitting, "yes" or perhaps providing some strange explanation. good luck.
2007-01-05 14:56:37 · answer #10 · answered by molloy 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋