I am divorcing and have always wanted to move west but hubby was involved w/ family businesses so it could never be a consideration. My children and me have severe allergies so we would be happier and healthier living in Arizona. I can't afford to remain in the community where I currently reside. I would like to move and pursue a college degree. Hubby currently sees kids every other weekend and Weds. night for dinner. Would it require an enormous legal battle to get the okay from a judge? How should I strategize to make this happen? Likely, I have 1-2 years before the marital residence, where I currently reside, sells. Please give me ideas for a plan. Is there a standard for how typical custody arrangements are designed between parents living in diff.states? I would be game for having kids visit w/ their dad for holiday breaks and 1/2 of the summers...is this reasonable? Who pays for children's transpor.? I am a devoted mother.What R potential consequences?
2007-01-05 14:49:43 · 5 answers · asked by bob 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hopefully you and EX are on good terms. If you are AND you can present a GOOD argument to him as to why he should let his kids move out of state with you then go for it. If you are not on good terms, then it will be up to a judge. You will still have to present a "good sale of goods" to the judge LIKE.... you have researched the area, schools, cost of living, etc. The potential of employment in your degreed field (once you get your degree). Since you will be the one to move, you really should offer to pay for (say)three trips per year for each of your children to fly back to see their father. Offer for him to have the kids for 3-4 weeks of summer vacation, continue to alternate holidays AND tell him that, as long as he provides you with at least two days notice, he can come and visit the kids ANYTIME HE WANTS!!!!!
I moved my eldest son from one state to another with my EX's permission. I gave him lots of consessions regarding our son. I waived his requirement to pay child support, I carried all medical expenses for our son, I pay for EVERYTHING regarding our son AND split the cost of airfare for our son to go visit him. NOW.... 7 years later, I have moved our son OUT OF THE COUNTRY (with his father's permission) and in addition to the above, my husband and I pay for "up to" 4 trips per year for my son to go visit his father in the states.
It can be done BUT it really depends on your relationship with your EX?
Good luck!!!
2007-01-05 15:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 12:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to get permission from him and the judge...if not they will not allow you to leave the state. You will have to take him to court and get it court ordered.
I have it court ordered I live in NV and he lives in FL. He gets a reduction in child support and he pays for the kids transport. He sees them every other holiday and a month in summer...good luck_
2007-01-05 14:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are devoted to your kids, don't leave without permission from your ex and the court. otherwise you could jeopardize your custody. Figure it all out legally and then move.
2007-01-05 14:52:52 · answer #4 · answered by redsox fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is all about you!
for your kids, don't do it, it's wrong!
It wouldn't cost anything if you gave him custody and left on your own.
2007-01-05 15:55:31 · answer #5 · answered by hogie0101 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋