My son is feeling some anxiety because his school guidance counselor & some teachers tell him he should know now (as he's a junior) where he wants to go to college and/or what he wants to do. He has many interests & is struggling with this & I think it's unreasonalbe for him to decide now. Any thoughts? Thanks
2007-01-05 14:48:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well I am 17 and having the same problems too.It is so hard for me to make up my mind and I think about this all the time.
2007-01-05 14:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by jamaican babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's perfectly normal. I'm 25 and lots of people I graduated with STILL don't know what they want to do with their lives. I think the guidance counselors are putting WAY too much pressure on this kid. He's only 16 and has another year to think about it. Even if he still doesn't know what he wants to do at the end of his senior year, he can take a year or two off and get some real life work experience before going on to college. Lots of kids do this. College will be waiting for him when he decides he's ready. The worst thing to do would be pressure him into making a decision now that he might regret later. Tell the counselor to get off his back. He'll decide when he's ready.
2007-01-05 22:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever he wants to be he should take his time and not be pressured so quickly. Think out logically what could be a real time career for him in the future. It may all depend on where he lives, The avalibility of the job, the pay, theres numerous factors that can influence your sons descion. And who knows by the time he says "I want to do this" Later down the road he may change his mind let him go with his own instincts.
I suggest doing some research on some jobs let him do it and decide which he thinks suites him best just dont cram a whole bunch down his throat in one night respectively.
2007-01-06 02:05:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that makes me laugh. I'm 18, I'll graduate in May. I have no idea what I'm going to go to college for. When I was 16 I knew but about my last semester of Jr year so many thoughts just kept going at me like "oh I could do that" "I think that sounds like something I'd enjoy doing" "I like that fact that ____ is like this". He shouldn't stress so much about it yet. He should look around on the Internet on some of the careers he's thinking about so he can shorten his list. But he'll figure it out in time. Some people go to college and don't set a major until their 2nd year of college. Tell him good Luck and that it's ok.
2007-01-05 23:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by Bast 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am currently a senior in college and it wasn't until the start of my junior year in college that I really figured out what I wanted to do. Its good for him to have a general idea of what he wants to do (journalism, science, history) but its not necessary that he pegs himself down into one thing. He's going to grow and change a lot in these next couple of years before he graduates high school and then change even more in college! I think its better that he has an open mind because chances are he'll get into a class in college (ex: sociology) and really like it. Don't worry he'll figure it out!
2007-01-05 22:56:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 25 year old English teacher and I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up! Tell him to let his instincts and gut feelings guide him. If he listens to some teacher or guidance counselor who is pushing him around, he may end up miserable. He has his whole life ahead of him to decide. Why force him to grow up so fast?
2007-01-05 22:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by Angelwings 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 19 years old and have yet to enroll in college.
After I graduated high school in June, I decided to take some time off to decide what I want to do with the rest of my life. It's a huge decision, why rush it?
He's still very young.
What are his interests, hobbies, talents, etc?
Discuss this with him and assure him that he still has plenty of time to make his decision.
2007-01-05 22:53:44 · answer #7 · answered by Desiree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that they are telling him he should know now. I have been working in a school district for 13 years. Also, my two daughters are in college and one is a sophomore and she doesn't know what she wants to do yet. He is putting way to much pressure on himself - he'll figure it out when he gets older.
2007-01-05 23:01:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have a basic idea of some areas he may want to go into, but some people don't know until they graduate, and they may find out that it wasn't right for them.
2007-01-06 00:10:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he should not stress about it. If he knows what he wants to do, then kudos for him! But usually, that's what Freshman year in college is for...to meet friends and to decide what you want to do. Tell him that it's okay NOT to know what he wants to do! He doesn't have to worry about it, he isn't even done with highschool! =]
2007-01-05 22:56:01 · answer #10 · answered by purplmonkeez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋