I'm in 7th Grade and in Pre-AP. Some of the boys in the other class and my class tease my A LOT. I ended up crying last year when it got really bad. And worst of all I'm kind of shy. What should I do? Please be nice about your anwser!
2007-01-05 14:38:50 · 28 answers · asked by Ember! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The very best thing to do is to disarm those people who tease you. What ever it is that they tease you with, realize that they are the fools who tease others to build themselves up. It really is a hard thing, but diamonds are formed from pressures of the world around them. Just remind yourself that you are a precious person and many people would be proud to be your friend, you just have a bunch of stelagmites blocking the view... Also, just like a stelagmite, it sometimes only takes a little return pressure to knock them right over.
Dont give them the power to block you what ever you do!
2007-01-05 14:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by Duane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know where you are coming from. Those years are so hard. For me it was a very, very long time ago but there are still some scars. My Mom would tell me, "Don't let it bother you. When you graduate from high school all those people will mean nothing to you and you won't see them again." Guess what, she was right. The teasing hurts but when someone teases someone it is because they have insecurities and jealousy. It feels like it is an important part of your life, and it sort of is right now. If you can just try to just tell yourself when they are doing this that they do this because they have problems - not you!
I am sorry that you are dealing with this. I truly am. I do understand that it can really devastate you. But I also know that you can be ok through all of this.
Good luck!
2007-01-05 14:45:38 · answer #2 · answered by MW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pre-AP? No idea what that means... I used to be teased and cryed a lot. Also was very shy. I would suggest staying as far away as possible from these guys but also ignoring them as much as you can. If they don't see any reaction from you then they will go elsewhere. If it's too bad talk to your guidence councelor or a nice teacher about the problem, not to get them in trouble necessarily ( that could come back to hurt you) but just for advice from someone who may be able to see the situation. Talk to your parents about it too. Or a pastor or a trusted adult.
2007-01-05 14:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry i got tease at school to and i know it is really really really hard i used to cry so much and i got so behind in my school work because of it. there is not a way to stop them from doing it because i was told tell Ur teacher please don't do that if someone says to it does not work. then there is talk to Ur mum and dad and that does not work either because Ur mum will say I'll go and talk to Ur teacher or the Principal and that makes it worse because then the boys will find out and tease u more. u just have to sick with Ur friends and the whole saying goes: if a boy teases u he likes u...lol u really need to be strong and act like u really don't care...if they say to Ur ugly or fat or some think..yawn and scratch r head and walk away to Ur friends and after a while they will loose interest i really hope those supid boys will leave u alone if not tell them I'll beat them up...lol good luck Hun :)
2007-01-05 14:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 21 now. When I was in middle school I was shy too! Every one always teased me and I just ignored it. The next year I found out that guys are retarded because the boys made a list of the most attractive girls in the 8th grad and i got number 5! but they just kept on teasing me! Just hold your head up. It will all in soon.
2007-01-05 14:45:50 · answer #5 · answered by thikingdomcome 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worst thing you can do is fight back. That introduces the possibility of you getting into trouble, and is playing into their game of starting trouble in the first place. In fact, don't even glare at them or give them a mean look.
Why don't you try smiling? If you do something completely unexpected, it'll throw people off balance. When people encounter unexpected situations, that makes them a little afraid. If nothing else, it's amusing.
If it's really really bad, and you think you should tell on them, don't raise your hand in the middle of class. Approach your teacher discreetly when everybody's left, and "ask their advice" about the situation.
2007-01-05 14:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by John C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should get a friend who will stand up for you. My friend was the exact same way she let guys call her a fat ugly lesbiean pig, and I got her back and told them to leave her alone and if not I would take care of it...if that doesn't work be a tattle tail it is so worth it. The guys made a poster about this girl and put it in her locker and in the halls I told on them and it got the job done ! Guys are such jerks you should totally punch them shy or not....YOU GO GIRL
2007-01-05 14:48:11 · answer #7 · answered by Miranda H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well they probaly like u. just smile. they will be confused at first. thats amazing that u r in preap cuz im not. stand up 4 ur self. say to ur self i know i can stand up for myself...i know i can i know i can. ...see i rememer last when i was in 7th grade i was like shy and now since in 8th grade im not really shy. see i have a science and it is all boys in there except me and 3 or 4 more girls. like they tease me around sometimes... i try not to make it bother me.
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2007-01-05 15:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by alycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks. But you're not the only one dear. Someone must've done something really mean like spread a rumour about you. But also, you mentioned that you were shy. Unfortunately, people seem to think that shy people are stuck up and full of themselves because they won't talk to anyone. Talk to adults that you trust and the teachers. Let them know that you refuse to take anymore of the crap or else you will get people in trouble. I know it's hard, but just suck it up for now because life gets better later on, trust me, it does!
2007-01-05 14:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through this exact same thing when I was in school. I was shy and I was also teased by boys. My mom told me to ignore them but I decided to take my own route and decided to stand up for myself. I think that boys can be extremely cruel but I think you need to take the same route and stand up for yourself because they'll know that you aren't the kind of girl to be messed with!
Good Luck!
2007-01-05 14:47:45 · answer #10 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋