how easy or hard do you take it when somebody close to you dies?

Question

how long does it take you to get over it.

Answer 1

There are a lot of things that can affect how you take it when someone dies. 11 years ago my grandfather died, and i was sad, but it didn't take me long to get over it. Of course I loved him but he was abusive to my mom and my grandma, and an alcoholic who screwed up a lot of people. I also knew it was coming, he had cancer and it was inevitable. But to me, him leaving solved a few problems for our family even thought we miss him. About a year and a half ago my cousin was killed in Iraq, we were close, and I can just think of him and cry. War on the T.V. or soldiers coming home, anything publicized like that turns me to tears. I don't think it is something that I will get over anytime soon. It was a life taken too soon, for the wrong reasons, and a messed up government. It all depends on the situation, but don't feel bad if you take it hard, or guilty if you take it easy, we all grieve in our own way, and we just have to figure out whats best for us, so we can stay healthy!

Answer 2

I really can't put a time limit on it. Whenever someone dies that I am close to that I know has a religious background, I have a certain peace knowing if there is such a thing as heaven, they are heaven bound. On the other hand, if it is someone who is not religious, I have a harder time dealing with that. If someone I know has been terminally ill for awhile, I take comfort in their suffering is over. But as far as telling you how many weeks, days or years it takes, I can't put a time limit on it.

Answer 3

It's not easy. My dad died in 1993 and my mom died this past June 2006. Times are still hard during the holidays, their birthdays, the days they died, the days they were buried. The loss is a hole in your heart that never completely heals. You just learn to deal with it...

Answer 4

What choices do you have other than overcoming the sorrow and hurt in this world?
It is personal, but earlier the better, life is short and one fine day you will be also gone just like that special one.
The World is a stage and the show must go on...

Answer 5

Well that a very heard question for me.I had so many people pass away on me like one wright after another.My grand farther I took it heard but I still think about all the time.MY Mother she was young am still mad at god for taken her.Sorry but that's how I feel.Then it gust keeps going on going.After my mother great Aunt,My Farther has altimeters and so on.I say OK who is next.I didn't mean to put a damper in your life style but I say it's very heard for a lot of people.

Answer 6

I lost my Dad when he was only 44 and I was 23 , it took me forever to get over it . I have lost other family and friends since then and I have learned to except it much better .
When we realize the death is a part of every life and that no one can predict when it will happen , and the deciding factor is up to God
then it is easier to except .

Answer 7

looking how close u were to that person! also it deponds on how much u think of them!! I'm VERY sorry about whoever died that was close to u!!! cuz i know EXACTLY how u feel!! i've had someone really close die to me!!! i'm SORRY!!

Answer 8

ive had 13 deaths in 5 years so far IM NO WHERE NEAR OVER IT

Answer 9

I have never experienced that yet... never been to a funeral...guess you can say I am lucky. But it was definately hard when my cat died.

Answer 10

to be honest you never really do. You just start slowly live your life again one day at a time and it slowly gets less and less harder. sorry for your loss.