As an undergrad, I felt like my academic career was a mess. My GPA was a 3.5 in a major where all my friends had 4.0s. I was constantly seeing what they had that I didn't have and felt so much discontent. Comparison was not a motivator but a cause of fear and lack of confidence that made me continue spiralling in my downward path.
I still have problems dealing with "perfect" people... I strive to be like them but I continue to fail.
Any advice on how to be happy admist my world of overacheivers and perfect scorers?
2007-01-05 14:30:56 · 5 answers · asked by Sydney M 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
You can compare yourself to others whenever you want, but it should not be done in order to put yourself down. Drawing comparisons to others is one thing, but making comparisons while saying in your head "I could never..." is self defeatist. Looking at others and saying "she did it, against all those odds, and so will I!" has an obviously different impact on your outlook.
As for your "perfect" friends. Perhaps you chose a major that was more of a struggle for you than your friends did. Perhaps you needed to work through college and they were able to pay their own way. Perhaps they are naturally gifted at their particular majors. Not to mention that 3.5 is not a bad GPA, but I'm sure you know that.
Someone that is good at academics may not necessarily be good at the people skills required to advance. Even if they are, being perceived as perfect by one's coworkers could be a very awkward position for them to be in, as you can appreciate from experience that it could cause feelings of resentment.
No-one is perfect. You might be seeing them in that light, but they all have flaws. Some people won't do anything they aren't good at. They'll quit early on, stating they are "bored", or "too busy", or any number of other excuses, which may or may not be true, but sometimes they've just quickly realized they don't have a natural aptitude for that sport or skill, and just move on.
I'd suggest you look to your own skills and abilities and what you like to do; there are probably some things people think you're perfect at too. For one, I'm assuming you have at least one University degree, which is not something everyone has. Chin up!
2007-01-05 15:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by CanadianBlondie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of all your accomplishments...whatever you've done that makes you happy, things you thought you could never do...Make a list and write something new every day...that way you are focusing on the positive things you've done, not on your failings
Remember all those "perfect" people really aren't so perfect...everybody has problems, and those "perfect" people probably compare themselves to others just like you do. Don't compare yourself to others. Just try to be the best you can be
2007-01-05 14:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you realize this, but a 3.5 is not failing silly!!!!! That is what I am making right now, and I don't consider myself a failure at all....No one is perfect, so get used to that and grow up..
2007-01-05 14:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by chazzer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Perfect people" f**k up too. Try comparing yourself to people that have it worse than you--maybe you'll feel better.
2007-01-05 14:43:50 · answer #4 · answered by Andreamy_23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When it seems obvious that the other person sucks.
2007-01-05 14:55:12 · answer #5 · answered by Redeemer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋