Is my mom being too picky?

Question

Okay, I've always been a straight A student...never gotten a B on my reportcard in my life. I'm a freshman and I'm 14...so on my AP US History first semester, I got a 90% even... A. And my mom totally flipped and yelled at me and was like, "Why can't you be smarter like your sister? She got a 98% in this class last year! This is going to be on your GPA! You better get your butt in gear and bring this up to a 97 by the end of the year!"

I couldn't believe her! It's an AP course - ridiculously hard, and i got an A!! And it's my first year in highschool!!!! Now she's being way too overprotective and is always watching me, making sure I'm not doing other stuff when I'm supposed to be doing school! She thinks that I'm not studying! I'm trying hard and so far in the second sem. I have a 97%, but I am pretty much running out of fuse before I blow up! She made me promise to show her EVERY assignment before I turned it in...and then I have to show her EVERY graded assignment! What do you thin

I have showed her everything, but she's STILL on my case and is always saying how I need to be smarter like my sister! Why is she so upset...I didn't even get a B! Honestly, do you have any suggestions.

Please no rude answers...

Thanks Rayne. =] I guess I'll just have to deal with it and be glad that I have two parents...and they both care.

Answer 1

I think she is being a bit hard but thats mothers for you. They just want you to do your best. And if your best is a 90 in AP US History congrats to you! I took that class in 11th grade and it was definitely a challenge. So kudos to you for doing so well in the 9th grade! Just as long as you try your best and please yourself, I think you'll be fine. Just let your mom know that you are doing your very best and you'll try harder. She'll appreciate that you're doing so well in high school. She's just pushing you like all moms do. Don't take it to heart, just appreciate the fact that you have a mom that cares so much about you! When she says that you're not studying, then maybe you could move your study place to somewhere public in the house like the living room, dining room etc, where she can actually SEE you studying. That will make her feel better.
Good luck in high school, enjoy yourself and congrats again for doing so well!

Answer 2

She's probably having a "Mom moment", and is having a hard time with the prospect of leaving the little ones so soon. She might be giving herself a guilt trip about putting them into daycare when she goes back to work. The general thinking on this one is "If I don't decide where to put them, I can delay putting them anywhere and spend more time with them". Perfectly normal. She'll be fine after she gets her head around the situation, and so will the kids. Don't worry about it. As for the two problems with the daycare you found... The place sound as close to perfect as you're going to find. Parking is going to be a problem everywhere you go. Also, the bathroom arrangement makes sense, if you think about it. The half doors for the 2-3 yr olds are there to help them get used to going by themselves, but won't make them scared by being closed up alone in a full-doored stall. Tall doors can be frightening when you're that small. Also, the curtains are a great idea for the 4-5 yr olds! (I wish my place did that.) Stall doors are a pain in the neck when cleaning up accidents, or helping with buttons, zippers, and other tricky articles of clothing. Give your mom a little time; be the voice of reason (in a nice, tactful way). The little ones will end up in a good daycare. And, for younger siblings everywhere, I thank you for being a good big sister. Keep up the good work.

Answer 3

Honey i am 29 years old and i had my first baby at 14 tell her it could be worse you are doing the best you can you cant make her hear you unless you speak i have a 24 year old now and she is a solid A B student i would like her to do better but she is trying and that's all i can honestly ask. Tell your mom you need to talk to her and tell her how you feel about her comparing you to your sister let her know you are your own person and that you are doing the best you can. If she wont listen I'm sorry for you and just try to deal with it the best way you can. Good Luck Honey

Answer 4

I, as a mother, and just out of high school myself, think it's unfair to compare you to your sister. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and it's not right to compare. Not to mention a 90% is wonderful. Even a B is just fine. She may be watching you and your school work, but as long as you're still doing well (and an A is defeinitely considered 'well'), and as long as YOU feel like you're doing your best, don't worry about it.

I'd sit down and share your feelings with her, not just talking about grades, but how it makes you feel when she's doing the things she is right now.

Answer 5

Wow. She way over-reacted. 90 is a really good mark and she shouldnt be comparing you to your sister. You are only 14 she should give u a break.

Answer 6

She is just trying to make sure that you get a good education. I know that you think that an A should have satisfied her. I would have thought that too. Maybe she is looking to help you get into an Ivy League school. My advice, grin and bear it and she will eventually move on to something else.

Answer 7

You're mom is really over reacting! I get a c on my report vcard and all I get is my parents telling me that I need to bring it up to a B.

Answer 8

I would NEVER put pressure like that on my daughter. Listen to me - you are doing fantastic!!!! Keep up the good work. You will get into a good college, trust me. I have two daughters in college - they did well in high school - just like you - and are in good colleges.

You will get into a fantastic college. Your mom is WRONG on this one -

Answer 9

You need so time to yourself. She is being a bit over protective. My mom was always happy with C's or better, so I have nothing to help you with.

Answer 10

I am sorry. Some moms are like that. Like mine's. Everything I do is wrong!