my "friend"callie called my other friend, jake, gay. she's mean because he isn't gay at all. she already called 2 guys gay already even though when they aren't. she went overboard with calling jake gay today. he's a sweet, nice, funny guy and i don't know why she thought of that. he's always smiling when i see him, but after callie called him gay, he was frowning and looking down. he went talking to me after that and i asked him if he got really offended, coz i would if someone called me some name. he said yes really quietly and wasn't that cheerful like before.I can't take that face that he made when he heard it off my mind.callie is just trying to be someone else. and she kicked some other friend's shin a lot of times after he told her to stop. he got pretty mad. and i was wondering how and what to tell her about her being mean again.she's just really mean. I got hurt too when she called jake gay. so how do i make jake feel better about himself? and tell callie about what she did?
2007-01-05 14:04:45 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You're really nice for feeling sorry for him, but they are his feelings, and right now he needs to think things through. Just stay with him for now and let him know that he can talk with you. As for your friend, Callie, you are right, she's mean. What I would do is tell her not to call people names let alone kick people in the shins. What she is doing is bullying, and obviously nobody likes it. Let her know that. I should warn you though, people who are very immature usually act immature when they are benig told to stop doing something. After she freaks out on you, let her know that you feel sorry for how she is feeling, but that she needs to stop. She cannot be doing these actions anymore because she will regret it if she hurts the wrong person.
2007-01-05 14:25:15 · answer #1 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk is cheap. If this guy is truly your friend then you need to realize that there is nothing funny about the words, any more than the n word is funny to blacks. And there is nothing funny, or insulting about being gay. Gay is about who you love,nothing more. Why do you find it necessary to hate based upon that? If you "jokingly insult" your friends with those words, consider them an insult, then you harbor the prejudice and bigotry of homophobic persecution. Eliminate them from your language so that it won't happen again. Eliminate them from your heart and then you'll have accomplished something. Let the lion lay down with the lamb, both have a right to be. Then apologize. It will mean something then. Until then it is nothing more than words..
2016-05-22 21:37:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...I think that you're right. Your friend is mean. There's something that is called respect. She should understand that calling people other names isn't nice and throughout her life, she won't make alot of friends with this kind of attitude. Talk to her and explain that she should change her habit and tell about Jake's feelings. Those guys don't say anything because she's a girl. I also had a friend similar to Callie....seems like she lost everybody. goodluck
2007-01-05 14:14:51 · answer #3 · answered by LadyXSakura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she's really jealous and starving for attention so she'll go about it any way she can.
Point out to her that her behavior has been insulting a lot of people and that you'd like her as a friend but not if she's going to act like that.
As for Jake tell him there's no way you'd believe that about him and that she's been targeting other people to so it wasn't really anything personal.
2007-01-05 14:10:35 · answer #4 · answered by gypse76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gay is not always in the literal meaning it is now just another insult and u are probably pretty young so someone cant know there sexuallity yet.
callie is proly just insecure and needs to put people down to keep herself up
talk to her and ask her if soething is going on
my best wishes
2007-01-05 14:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her why you got mad and explain to jake that he is NOT gay or anything like it and tell him ur friend was being stupid. give her one more chance and if she does it again (like meaning it not joking) drop her like the horrible friend she is.
2007-01-05 14:32:15 · answer #6 · answered by Toripori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to them. its happened to me. and if you know he isnt gay. he isnt gay. dont loose your mind on their jokes
2007-01-05 14:08:43 · answer #7 · answered by ♫ αиgєℓ υи∂єя ¢σνєя ♫ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they r gay
2007-01-05 14:09:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋