My son is 14, he seems to have a problem with authoritive figures, smart kid just doesn't seem to want to apply himself and to lack of respect for what I say.
2007-01-05 13:49:12 · 11 answers · asked by rcreyes72 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Age 14-18, or so, are tough times to get along with boys--- especially if you are his Mom. Try to see if he can get into a sport--- it not only helps channel his energies, keep him 'straight' for his sport, but it also gives him male association--- hopefully with a good man, his coach, who he may grow to like and respect, and who can help guide him.
If his father is in the picture, see if you can encourage him to spend more "fun" time with your son--- so your son feels as though he has someone to turn to for companionship and guidance.
In the meantime, try to be as patient and loving as you can, without being a doormat. If he is too out of line, it is not only bad for you, but bad for him as well.
If you can get the lines of communication open, try to hear his complaints and problems in as non-judgmental way as you can. Try to see things from his perspective.
As much as you can, feed his friends and make them feel welcome in your house--- annoying and sloppy and loud as they are---(I had four sons!!) Remember, as long as they are in your house or yard, they are not out on the streets getting into who knows what kind of trouble.
As hard as it is, be his friend. He's having very mixed-up feelings right now--- especially about women. I found all my sons pulled strongly away from me at this age---Then, when they got a girlfriend, everything changed back and they could be affectionate and nice to Mom again.
Even more than a 2 year old, a teenager is desperate to display his independence--- and like a 2 year old, he really is NOT yet ready actually to BE independent--- hence conflict!
Keep the love flowing--- this too shall pass.
2007-01-05 14:09:27 · answer #1 · answered by Rani 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that he needs to show respect and apply himself or there will be consequences. At 14, he is probably on the phone, computer, game systems and hanging out with friends. These things are all easy to take away, and he'll quickly realize that he needs to straighten up to get his privileges back. Talk to his teachers to see what they have to say about his behavior and to check on his grades. They will probably be more than likely to help you monitor him.
2007-01-05 14:13:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh this is normal. 14 is a hard time because kids become or want to be more independent and they seem to think that they don't need their parents, when really, they do. It's just a phase that he's going through. Let him get over it. If it gets really bad, that's when you must step in and talk to him. Let him know that he can be independent all he wants unless he deserves it. That's what most teens don't seem to get. If you want to be treated like an adult, act like one, otherwise, you are going to be treated like a child.
2007-01-05 15:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very common in boys this age.
He hates what anyone says.....so put it in writting. Make a list of things he does wrong and consequences. Thus you don't have to keep repeating yourself.
I know it is hard, but give him some room to be independent. Try to not constantly draw a line in the sand. Work on avoiding stree with him, that doesn't mean you whimp out.....you just need to get rid of the unimportant struggles that just add to the clutter of conflict at this age.
Don't do things to embarres him.
Don't try to be his friend. He needs boundries with love.
When he grows up you will be amazed that he turns in to a fine young man.
2007-01-05 14:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know your the parent, set the rules and abide by them. If he does this he will lose privilege's and stick to it. You know like this has this consequence and don't change in mid stream. This too shall pass. After the next 4yrs he'll be a great kid again, its an age thing.If we could only freeze dry them from 14 to 21.
2007-01-05 14:12:36 · answer #5 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 14 year old girl who has thee smartest mouth on the whole east coast. Kids want attention so when he acts like that give it to him take away all of his stuff TV phone friend everything you can don't given or give it back unless he earns it trust me it works and if he refuses to learn his lesson it looks like he will be a very hard uncontrollable hardheaded very very bored teenager. Good Luck
2007-01-05 15:11:57 · answer #6 · answered by lovewhereilive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will get thur that just give him time every teenager goes thur that i went thur almost the samething i still am im 16 now my brother went thur that he is 21 now he went thur that very quickly he was over that in a few months so yeah
2007-01-05 14:13:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him. im 15 and im the same way. my mom told me stories of all her friends who were like me. they ended up doing nothin with themselves. all of them live in the shelter house. just try talkin to him. if he doesnt listen then let him go. he'll figure out he should have listened to you first, instead of doing what he thought was ok. it works.i have straighten out since i didnt listen to my mom the first time.
2007-01-05 14:11:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-22 21:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BEAT HIM!!!!! Just kidding. Try to talk to him. Or send him to a therapist. Otherwise just BREATH and count to ten. And hope he grows out of it.
2007-01-05 13:53:31 · answer #10 · answered by michele b 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋