My parents [mostly my mom] assume EVERYTHING wrong about me. It's sickening. Ok, like 1 month ago I got a prgress report from school in the mail. I was failing two classes. Now, a month later, and closer to the end of the semester, I have a D in [math] and almost a B in my other class. To my mom, that's not good enough. She and everyone else in my family just assumes I "don't want to pass high school" [I'm in 10th]. I swear they've all formed a conspiracy against me being that all they say is "you need to try harder" when I do. I've actually changed my study habits quite a bit in that I'm doing my HW and actually getting passing grades on tests and paying attention in class. I'm actually very proud of myself that I have a D in math becuase though it's no A, I know that going from an F to a D is an improvement, is it not? I'm trying am I not? They don't see that. They just see ways to make that D into a C instead of aknowledging I'm doing better. I feel unpraised..
2007-01-05 13:41:46 · 6 answers · asked by K 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
I think it's every parent's naturaly reaction to push their child to an A. They want you to excel. They want to be able to brag about you to their friends. And society says they should expect that from you. They really aren't doing things much differently than most parents.
If you are improving, then just keep up the good work. The F to a B is fantastic - especially if you accomplished that in one month. Keep striving, not for them, but for you. Remember that you have just entered the year in which colleges are going to be evaluating for acceptance and every point counts. And even if you aren't going to college, the habits you form now will have a direct impact on how you produce during your career.
Chin up. It gets better.
2007-01-05 13:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by lilrubberducky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your parents to send you to Sylvan or Kaplan for tutoring, since you're doing the best you can with math and are still only getting a D. I went through the same thing with algebra and biology. I was able to improve biology somewhat by studying, but not algebra.
Remind your parents of your grades prior to your new study habits and tell them while you realize you still need to improve in math, you would like them to acknowledge your hard work in the other subjects.
There's an old poster, it has a puppy or baby on it and it says: "When I'm good, nobody remembers. When I'm bad, nobody forgets." Your parents need to start remembering some of the good hard work you've done.
2007-01-05 21:47:06 · answer #2 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of people are going through that. Yeah I had an F in Geometry at the beginning of the year and now it's steadily climbing itself up to a B but my mom thinks I don't try. I've given up trying to make them happy and I've decided as long as I know I'm trying their opinion shouldn't matter. ((plus I snapped at my mom once and she sent me to a shrink)) just do the best you can for YOU. Sure you want to make them happy but if you're trying to make anyone happy you should be number 1. It'll make you work harder ((and you've got more people to prove wrong)) if it's a self help thing.
Lots of Luck!!!
2007-01-05 21:52:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's very good that you're striving to improve.
It's not that they don't appreciate your effort...they just consider that this kind of behavior will help you do better.
BTW, I believe that big marks are not that important. I've always studied for myself. It's useful to know lots of things. When you'll grow older you'll understand why the following quotation is so true: "Knowledge is power (Fr. Bacon)."
2007-01-05 22:00:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good job on your improvement. You might want to talk to your teacher to see if you can bring that D to a C. Not that what you're doing isn't good, but maybe he or she can help you understand it better.
As for your parents, they probably assume things that may or may not be true and it's easy to dish out more "parental advice" instead of talking to you more like helping with your homework or talking to your teacher too. And, naturally, everyone else in your family believes what they say over you.
Don't worry. Just believe in yourself. You know how hard you've worked. Your parents just want the best for you.
2007-01-05 21:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by man_of_mustard 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you put as much effort into raising your grades and studying as you do defending why your not, your parents wouldn't be on your case. You would get a lot more freedom and rewards.
I know, I sound just like your parents; thats be cause I am one and have been where you haven't.
2007-01-05 22:01:50 · answer #6 · answered by ttpawpaw 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋