Flirting with a married man turned into a pregnancy???

Question

Please no rude comments.I really never saw it coming i am nice to everbody and honestly i try to be a good person .The man in questions is a client of the company i work for. I was promoted to be the companys representive.We worked well together and became friendly after working together in close range every day for so long.We talked about everything from relationships, life in general, and even personal problems.I went out to lunch with him a few times and that graduated to a few drinks after to work in the begging we were in a group.Then came flirting and playful banter.After a company party while away in L.A though where i consumed a fair amount of alchol and so did he we ended up having sex.I am now almost three months pregnant and depressed.I am not sure if should tell him?

I feel so bad and fear if i say anything i will have ruined his marriage!

I distanced myself from him after the incident and i plan on keeping the baby.

Answer 1

Yes, you MUST tell him. He needs to be aware that he is going to become a Dad, and therefore, start getting ready to pay his child support. You will need his financial support, and also, his physical support to help you. His marriage will no doubt end in divorce, but that's just the way it works. Good Luck, and congrats on your baby.

Answer 2

You should tell him immediately. There is no excuse for the behavior that went on between you two. It takes two to tango here. However, putting that aside, you now have a baby on the way and he deserves to know this. If you want your child to have a good future ahead of it you would contact this man and see how he feels about the situation. Whether you want him to be or not, hes now involved in your life in a major way. Good luck.

Answer 3

If it's not too late to terminate the pregnancy then do so. why did you wait so long? your life can be seriously derailed. if it is too late you can tell him or not. depends if you need financial help.
your options are these:
Abortion (recommended)
carrying to term and giving the baby up for adoption
keeping the baby and suing him for child support, but raising the kid yourself and continuing to work and do all you can for you and your child. Being a single parent is very hard but if that's what you choose you must contact your family and make sure you have the most support you can get from anyone that cares for you.
make a doctor's appointment tomorrow to consider all your options.
Good luck

Answer 4

It sounds like you have made up your mind about keeping the baby no matter what you could still tell him. Let him decide if he wants to be part of the baby's life then it would be up to him to tell his wife If he doesn't then let him sign over all parental rights so if you meet someone later who wants to marry you and be a father he can't come and demand custody. Good luck

Answer 5

I think for the babies sake the father should be told. I mean someday the child will probably ask about their father and if you tell him about the baby then he has the choice whether or not to play a part in the babies life. At least then the child can't blame you for not letting the father know they exist. good luck to you. ;o)

Answer 6

for the child, you must tell him. the child will need 2 parents. it is not the child's fault for your indiscretions. give the child a father because he/she deserves it. the father may not be happy about the developments but he is 50% responsible for this bundle of joy. both of you need to be a whole lot more responsible in the future than you were 3 months ago. by the way, didn't anyone ever tell you not to mix business and pleasure?

Answer 7

i think personally that u should tell him that u r pregnant because i mean in this world you can never hide something from somebody. I mean even if he is marry you made a mistake and hey u kno he did too even though he is marry but you should tell him. I believe hes gonna tell u that is probably your fault and that you knew he was marry and you were flirting with him. But you need to talk to him wats going on. I mean it depends how well u kno him like his attitude. Just talk to him and hopefully evertyhing goes well...God Bless

Answer 8

oh yes....... tell him b/c you both are responsible for this. It happens all the time, there is nothing you can do to change what happened. You just have to think for you and your baby's future......maybe this baby come for reason; but that doesn't mean you will have relationship with the married guy b/c it just not right.
what is done is done. you have a responsibility for this baby and do what it takes to do the right thing.

Answer 9

You should tell him,it's his baby to.But no pressure on him,this could make it turn ugly situation and you will the one most hurt.Tell him if you feel like that I mean,that you dont want to break his marriage or need his help in upbringing the child,you are telling him only to inform him that he is gonna be dad.
It's a tough situation and you never know how people react.
Hope for the best.

Answer 10

Flirting does not make you pregnant. In reality you screwed a married man and got pregnant because you didn't take the necessary precautions.

As for what you should do tell him and make sure he tells his wife. If not tell her yourself.

You have every right to feel depressed and like crap right now because of what you 2 did, but that doesn't mean that you should feel that way alone. After all "it takes 2 to tango" and he should step up to his responsibility of what he did and his future child.