Why is there something wrong with ME?

Question

I am a college student that doesn't drink or party because I am working, trying to find another job, writing scholarship essays, taking 17 credits and genuinely trying to learn something. I get up every weekday at 7am, and I work hard. Today, I complained to a group of people in a class that my hallway was noisy until 3am last night, when I had an 8am class this morning, and that they all sleep until noon everyday. Instead of saying, "Oh, go see the RA." They immediately responded, "That's what college is supposed to be like." College is supposed to be like 20 drunk girls screaming down the hallway at 3am on a Thursday? The question is: Is there something wrong with them, or is there something wrong with me? Am I just too much of a stick in the mud for my own good? Why should I have to study at the library until 3am every night, because I can't study or sleep in my room? Why do other college students think it is the college experience and OK?

Unfortunately, it makes me sick to think of abandoning one of the best colleges in the country (and the 3rd best political science program) to go to a community college when I working so hard in high school to get here in the first place.

I meant "worked so hard in high school". Sorry about that.

Answer 1

There is nothing wrong with you. You sound like a smart young person. You will probably do great things. Maybe you could find some people who share common interests and all move out together.

Answer 2

Without questions there is nothing wrong with you. You are taking and adult approach to college in that you are working hard, paying your own way and trying very hard to come out the other side with something of value.

The kids you talk about more than likely have their collage paid for. They may not have even wanted college but it was just expected of them. So the party is on.

When they are through college it will have amounted to little, if they even finish.

You do have the right to have your peace and quite. I would think that there should be someone that would put a stop to the partying or move it somewhere else. You can not do it yourself. They need authority telling them to stop.

As hard as it is you are doing the right thing. And when you are done and you get that job you want you will have little trouble doing it. Going to college is not nearly as important as what you do in college. All this hard work will pay off for you. Keep it up and look to where you want to go.

Do not abandon the college you worked so hard to get in. That is puting to much importance on others and not enough on yourself.
Whatever you do understand that you are the one that is right. never ever beleive that they are right for messing up thier education. THEY ARE NOT. And they will come to know that later.

Answer 3

College is a different experience for different people, but I'm pretty sure that you have the main purpose in mind when you concentrate on studying--people who do nothing but party will soon find their college experience at an end.

It may be difficult at the moment, but here are some suggestions for the future: 1) see if your university has a quiet dorm or quiet floor; 2) think about moving off-campus in the future if you can afford it; 3) try studying with headphones on to block out other noises. If the lyrics distract you, try classical music or new age music that doesn't have lyrics.

All that said, the social aspect of college is worth experiencing, too. It's a good time to make friends and meet people who may be different from those you grew up with or went to high school with. It's also good to experience music, movies, art, etc. outside of what you are familiar with. So I hope your college experience is not ALL work and studying . . . have some fun, too.

Answer 4

No, theres nothing wrong with you. You're just being responsible...and believe me, those girls that are partying too hard will regret it when they have to repeat classes and have a low GPA. However, you may have picked the wrong school or hall. Some schools have honors halls where the more serious students live. Or maybe you picked a party school that wasn't the right fit for you. If you can't change halls or schools, don't worry about it. Everyone gets more serious sophomore and junior years and the reckless partying subsides.

Answer 5

Just keep doing what you are doing now. Later all those that are partying will end up regretting it. Dont let anyone tell you that you are the one that is wrong here. Yes you need to speak with your RA and if that doesnt work go to your dean. Something needs to change. Dont let them get you down in here! You dont seem like you need to go to a community college maybe everyone in your hall needs to. At least they would be spending less for their partying days. Just keep going and workl hard you will rnjoy the benefits later even if you cant see it now.

Answer 6

People are going to be like that no matter what you do. So you can always move out and get someone else to rent a near by apartment or you'll have to wear a permanent MP3 player or ear plugs. You could loosen up a little but if that's the real you and you don't think that you would like to party even a little then move. They're not going to chance. Ciest la vie.

Answer 7

You just need to live off-campus, probably in a nearby apartment complex. This is not the end of the world.

Not everyone comes to college to be studious and disciplined. A lot of people are there to tolerate the classes and live up this pre-formed idea of the college experience. These people either fail out or revise their lives later on, but in the meantime you just have to deal with it until you can move off-campus and get more control of your surroundings.

Answer 8

I don't think there's anything wrong with you for taking your education seriously and neither should you. Just like the girl above said that they'll regret it once they see how many classes they'll have to retake causing them to take longer to graduate and then you'll be sleepin till noon cause you have less classes to go to and then they'll be cramming tryin to finish all the work they should've finished a long time ago...think about it. If this is something that needs to be dealt with immediately i say go to the RA...

Answer 9

They are living the way TV, and Movies show
College life to be.
You are above that. You have a different agenda.
A goal to succeed.
For some of them, early stages of Alcoholism.
I see good things in your future. You're a hard worker.
It will pay off.

Answer 10

You are living in a communal setting, and even though your efforts are honorable, not everyone around you respects that. If you don't like the college experience, maybe it's not for you and you are ready to move on to a job and part time education at a comm. college.