This is NOT abuse, correct?

Question

Someone said spanking isn't abuse, so here's what happened to my son when he was with his father:

- he was hit daily (sometimes by a belt)
- he was sexually abused and raped twice
- he was locked into a closet by my current husband

If all that's not abuse I like I think it is, then why can't I get my custodty of my son back? N oh yeah he's 17

Answer 1

NO dont you get it!!! No you should not get custody!! You live with the man who abused your child.

Answer 2

I think that you must be an intelligent person in order to understand the laws of child custody. Having established that, i must ask why you are asking that question. Children younger than me could tell you that is abuse, I bet even your son could tell you that that is classified as abuse.
I think the main reason that you cant get custody is because you are not a proper caregiver. I don't know you and therefore cannot adequately asses your parenting skills but I can tell you that if you married a man who would beat and sexually abuse your son, got divorced, then married another abusive man, the court would not be easily convinced of your abilities as a mother.

Answer 3

Well yes that is abuse and the reason you can't get your son back is because you let your husband lock him in a closet. Now he is old enough to get a job and move out. I think CPS should remove him from the father's custody and put him in a foster home so neither of you will get him. What kind of a mom lets her husband lock her son in a closet?

Answer 4

Look at it like this your son is 17 thank God he has been mistreated, neglected, and let down by the very people he is supposed to trust. YOU allowed a man to lock your child in a closet and you are still married to him and have enough nerve to get on here and ask for help you are asking for nothing but judgment you should have been a predator for your baby willing to do anything to protect him from harm. I would like to know where you were when he needed you I find it hard to be live you were unaware of what was going on unless you didn't know your son I know when my kids are having a bad day or if something just isn't right ma by you think I'm being to harsh but no sympathy here. I'm glad he is about to be 18 ma by he can move on and actually have a meaningful full adult hood. I wouldn't let people like you or either one of you husbands own a cat.

Answer 5

there is a difference in spanking and hitting a child.

lets not get angry and blow off people who reply stupid things.

Yes it is abuse to hit a child for no reason and leave a mark. a child should not get hit on a daily basis. spanking a child is for extreme punishment and should NEVER leave a mark


sexual abuse and rape is the worst ever and people who do that should be locked away for ever, chemically and physically castrated

yes what your current husband did was a form of abuse not as bad as the above but a form




I m not going repost what I said about custody.

but still wish you the best

Answer 6

Because you had to know it was happening. And you called your son a liar. And yes that is abuse. When I got spanked with a paddle or a board on my bottom, it didn't leave bruises. It was a punishment, not a beating, as you described in your other question. I wouldn't want to be around you if I was called names and your husband, my uncle, locked me in the closet. I was never locked in a closet in my entire life. That is torture to a child and nobody, especially you should condone it.

Answer 7

hello,
well i have to tell you what i have just read is very disturbing!first of all it sounds to me like you need to get rid of the men in your life and consintrate on your son.second, hitting your child should be the last resort dialy spanking is not needed.i hope whom ever sexually abused and raped your son is in prison at the very least. i can tell you everything i'm about to say because i also have some experience in this type of matter. your current husband needs to be locked in a closet and see how he likes it,that is no way for someone that is supose to care for your son to be and if your still with him you need to get your head out of your *** and realize as long as your with this man or any other man like him or your ex you'll never get your child back.if you really love your son you'll get stop dealing with men until you do what you need to do to get your son home where he belongs!now i'll tell you how i can say these things to you.four years ago i was beaten by my exboyfriend and when the department of social services got involved we found out that he had a record and well it wasn't pretty.i later found out that the man i was with before him had sexually melested two of my daughters. the department then came in and took my children away and they were gone for three years before they started to come home. i have two home now and two more coming home in two weeks.all this took putting my personal life on hold and putting my children first where they should be anyway.if i can do mit no matter how lonely it is sometimes then i know you can do it.
good luck

Answer 8

I don't understand your question...

you said spanking isn't abuse.. you're right it isn't..

what is happening to your son IS abuse.. something should be done.

the fact that you don't have your child speaks ill of you. He was locked in a closet by your CURRENT husband??? you let your spouse lock your child in a closet?????? you should not have him back...

Answer 9

Oh, lets see....let me hit you with a belt, lock you in a closet and rape you..how would you feel?

the fact that you are on here asking IF thats abuse, tells me, you dont even deserve to have a child..I bet you dont..you are probably just some troll, strolling for attention.


Saddam will see you in hell.

Answer 10

All of the things you listed is abuse of your son if you allowed that to happen to him you do not need custodty of him back nore does his father or your Current husband. Thats just a litttle messed up that yoou allowed that to happen. You don't need custodty or him or anyother child. And just to inform you he's 17 he may choose for himself who he wishes to live with. And whoever said spanking isn't abuse is retarded.

Answer 11

Maybe Social Services belived the father over you, he could have manipulated them?? There are people who make up abuse stuff to get custody so someitmes they wrongfully think that about people who are actually telling the truth. do you have a good lawyer??? find out what the steps are for you to take to get custody ( althought it wil be a moot point soon anyway though since he is 17) also, is there anything wrong with you that could make you considerd an unfit parent ( such as using drugs etc.. ).