How do you deal with the jealousy?
2007-01-05 13:23:01 · 6 answers · asked by A B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, we do. And it works.
There is no jealousy because we are secure in ourselves and in each other. Jealousy is insecurity. It is the fear that someone else is better than you and thus they'll be preferred over you. We know this is not the case. Sex is sex. What we have together, what makes us in love with each other is everything else that makes a relationship. It's being best friends, it's being companions, it's knowing each other's deepest, darkest secrets that no one ever before has known, and still loving each other. Everyone has sex organs, but not everyone has what we do for each other.
Trying to explain this to people who have no experience in it though is like trying to explain the rush and thrill of skydiving to someone that has never done it, and worse yet is afraid of heights. Their personal fears and biases get in the way of them forming an objective opinion about it because all they see is that you jumped out of a perfectly good airplane.
2007-01-05 19:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is pure oxymoron my friend.
I read an article in an issue of Tango Magazine (a spring issue, I think) and the woman said it worked but everyone but her could clearly see it didn't.
The jealousy would just kill it from the gate.
Tyra had a show on that, too. Maybe you can go to her website. Or was that Dr. Keith Ablow?
2007-01-05 13:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't think open marriages can work, nor are they intended to work, I think God had it right when He said that He wanted us to wait until we were married to have sex, and that once married you should have sex with only your spouse, Look at all the good monogomy does, it produces respect and love in a relationship, prevents children being born and not knowing who their fathers are, prevents the spread of STD's. Why would you get married if you want to have an open relationship?
2007-01-05 13:28:14 · answer #3 · answered by fatima_mst 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
If it works there would be no jealousy.
2007-01-05 13:34:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know i couldnt do it...if you want to be with other people they why get married..why not just have your "sig other" and do your own thing...marriage is suppose to be between a couple..monogamus..at least thats what i believe...
2007-01-05 14:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by diane b 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes
2007-01-05 13:24:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋