I have been married to my husband for 2 yrs and never met any of his family. They told him to never bring me around because they will only accept his ex-wife. I thought they would eventually change their minds over time but its seems they will never change. My husbands ex wife still has a close relationship with them and still visits them and she doesnt even have any children with him. His family lives in another state from us so when he goes to visit he never takes me and sometimes his ex is there. He tried to talk to his family and get them to meet me but they always reject his attempts. I dont know what I should do this is really starting to affect me emotionally. I just feel really left out like their trying their best to keep me away and bring him and his ex back together. Any suggestions?
2007-01-05 13:22:22 · 7 answers · asked by BUTTA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only he can stop this nonesense and stand up for you,,,and only he can do that,,,,GoodLuck if he loves you he will not go around unless you are with him the two of you are accepted or nobody will show up/
2007-01-05 13:32:18 · answer #1 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as your husband allows them to do this, they will never accept you and you can't force them. What he can do if he really cares for you is stop seeing going to see them and hopefully they will miss him enough to where they will come around, then again only you know how long you can live with this and if you want to live with this. It really is hard. I know because my husband and I are from different cultures and his family will never think, no matter what I do, that I am good enough for him, even though I am the one with the college degree and better paying job. What matters to me and keeps me strong though is that he is behind me 100% and defends me when he has to against their gossipful mouths. But like I said you have to think about it and is it worth the pain, and how much is enough. They haven't even met you or given you a chance, its their loss, no yours. I think your husband needs to take a stand.
2007-01-05 21:36:35 · answer #2 · answered by fatima_mst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always send them a note telling them how much you love your husband and wish that you could get to know the parents that raised him. See what happens from there. Otherwise I'd not allow it to bother you or affect your marriage. I mean they are not considering their son's feelings at all by putting him in this spot. So don't worry and just be happy with your husband. ;o)
2007-01-05 22:15:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for you. i have see this happen before. If I were you, I'd want to move away even further, so it's not so easy for him to visit his family and his ex. It's should be an insult that he doesn't even bother to try to take you to meet them. I'd be talking to his *** and ask him when and why isn't he taking you? Is he ashamed of you or what? Just some questions to be asking.
2007-01-05 21:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband continues to go where his wife is NOT wecome, then there IS a problem .....and it's with HIM! If they do not allow you to come, then he should not go either. You, whether they like it or not, are a PART of him. If you can't go, then he can't go!
2007-01-05 21:35:51 · answer #5 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a suggestion...forget about trying to please them. Focus on pleasing your husband!! He's the one that really matters.
2007-01-05 21:25:26 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If they have to be like that then I wouldn't worry about it.
2007-01-05 21:33:20 · answer #7 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋