you screwed up all the time and wanted to change youre life around what can you do
2007-01-05 13:05:18 · 21 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's all up to you...
I think women (human) can take only one mess up.
If you want her to accept you again, you will need to show how sincere you really are! Change yourself to be a better man. Not only by your mouth (talking), She needs to see some action.
Be good to her!! don't mess up again!
Good luck!
2007-01-05 13:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by BB2791 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop telling her you will change and actually do it! Show her that you can be a better man. Start thinking about her needs before your own in all aspects of life. Be attentive, caring and romantic...but not over the top. Make this a lifelong thing, not just a quick fix. I suggest reading the book "The Wedding" by Nicholas Sparks, it is a girly romantic book but it is all about a man who wins back his wife's love. Good luck!
2007-01-05 21:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by patriciamariegrant 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just because u messed up it doesn't mean the end of the relationship, just change your actions, change the people who u are listening to that causes u to make the bad choices, acknowledge u hurt her, be sorry, show remorse, don't deny your behavior, be willing to own up to it, no matter how embarrassing it is, or how much it hurts to be truthful. show her u can make her happy, tell her she can trust u again, only u can change your life, can't just make lame promises, can't lie, has to be shown by actions, and give her time as forgiveness is alot like grief, it happens very slowly, and involves many different steps. she may not be willing to trust u for awhile, or forgive u right away, but if u aren't patient u will never win her heart back, but i believe anything that is broken can be fixed, most things anyway.good luck
2007-01-05 22:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do is live your life with the same vigor that caused you to use no less than eleven exclamation points just now. Make her the center of your joy.... plus pray lots and take her shopping and apologize profusely and stop being a loser and don't ever look at another female and give her your pay check and wash her feet in a basin, then lotion and rub them and make her breakfast and take her out to her favorite restaurant and don't call her by her name anymore, instead call her "Beautiful" as if that is her given name and I can go on and on but I've given you quite a sufficient start already.
2007-01-05 21:48:54 · answer #4 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is too generic, you give no real details of what you'e done, therefore you'll get an general answer from me.
You can only make your wife fall in love with you again if you're both willing and the feelings are still mutual.
2007-01-05 21:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you need to start changing your ways and make up to her big time and prove to her that you love and that she is the best thing that ever happened to you and you made mistakes that you deeply regret and will live the rest of your life making it up to her if it meant that she stays in your life. How am I doing?
2007-01-05 21:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly,its so hard to ever trust someone who burns you once,much less over and over.IF she gives you another chance,you cant mess up again.You have to be patient with her healing process,and you have to do WHATEVER it takes to make her feel secure.NO MATTER WHAT IT IS.Patience is key here.Dont be in places or situations you shouldnt or that she wouldnt approve of.
2007-01-06 01:02:52 · answer #7 · answered by migamw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea but I truly admire your willingness to try and fix the situation. I hope it all works out. Following is an article from the Dr. Phil website titled "Strategies for rebuilding your marriage"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/132
2007-01-05 21:15:44 · answer #8 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on what ur wife likes. you have to do little things that you did when you first got married. dont get her flowers and chocolate. take her out to a dinner do the things that matter. you dont even have to take her out to dinner maybe pack up a lunch basket and watch the sunset
2007-01-05 21:13:51 · answer #9 · answered by Sami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just change and stop messing up, if she loves you she'll see beyond it but you must make the effort.
2007-01-05 21:07:52 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋