What if you can't stand your husband but can't divorce?

Answer 1

ask God to help your marriage..pray about it

anything is possible with God..even matters of the heart

Answer 2

I have been married for 33 years - irrelevant? probably. I can't stand my husband either sometimes, but we go back such a long way. People stay married for all kinds of reasons and they are not always to do with love. I wish I was strong enough to leave. But the fear that things could be so much worse - plus better the devil you know, makes me stay. Sorry - this is about you, not me. I would say - if your young - get out! Life is too damn short and no one is waiting at the end of your life to award you points for good behaviour - follow your heart. If your on here asking questions - I think you already know the answer. Good luck!

Answer 3

I would ask for counselling first, with the expectation that we both would make a commitment to put in our 100% for say, 6 months, and see what happens. But after that, if things were the same and I still absolutely couldn't stand him, I'd divorce him. He and I both would deserve better for our lives and shouldn't tie ourselves down to each other for ANY reason, not even for the sake of the kids, who would be learning from us.

Answer 4

Why can't you divorce? If you done everything in your power to make your marriage work and are still unsuccessful, then the only logical answer is divorce. Better to give both of you a shot a happiness rather than to stay and be miserable.

Answer 5

You "can't" divorce? Why not? Is there a thought control chip the aliens implanted at the base of your skull? What's this "can't" crapola?

Come on. Can't or won't -- because it is easier not to confront the problem?

Let's put it this way - how would you feel knowing he was fed up with you, tired of you, sick of you - but never said anything and you found out years later? "Oh, I didn't want to hurt you."

Wouldn't you feel deceived, cheated, lied to? Of course you would. So, tell him what you are thinking. No secrets in marriage, right?

Answer 6

I was in this boat not too long ago. I prayed to God quite a bit about it. So, he decided to help my husband quit drinking, which was the root of just about all our problems. So, if it's something in particular that needs fixed in your marriage, then you can pray and hope for the best. But if you just despise him for no reason and don't love him, then why not get divorced?? Why can't you?

Answer 7

What country are you in and what is your religious belief?

It is hard for anyone to give you feedback without some details to allow for understanding of the situation.

Marriage Counsellor People? There is a difference between difficulties in a marriage and "I can't stand the person I am with".

Answer 8

You can join the club. It offers a really swell membership plan.
Just kidding. I can stand him about 79% of the time which is good enough. Remember "for worse." You agree to love him for better or for worse. You have just bitten off way too much of the "worse" is all. Hang in there and invite one third person into your marriage and your bed every night. His Name Is God.

Answer 9

Then you have a serious problem my dear! Your not a prisoner and can't never could do anything! So in your best interests you should seek some professional guidance !! You may also want to address to him what it is that is turning you away! Sometimes people do things that they are not even aware of!

Answer 10

If you want options, you're gonna have to give details. What can't you stand about him? Why can't you divorce?

Answer 11

Marriage is supposed to be nice, supportative, and a whole lot of other things, if it isn't, get a divorce. God couldn't care less, no one really cares... make yourself happy. It is the only life you get to have.