I have been separated for about 6 months don't know if I should work it out or not. He cheated on me. I have a 2 yr. old son and it would be nice to keep the family together however it doesn't seem that he is doing much of trying to win me back.
2007-01-05 12:56:19 · 9 answers · asked by Precious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, Precious, the answer lies in whether you believe or not that he has repented of what he did. Talk it out calmly. That decision belongs to both of you.
Relationships are based on love, trust, friendship and commitment . Love allow us to forgive others. If he is sincere, why not take him back?
2007-01-05 13:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by David G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you already know the answer to your own question.
1. He cheated on you.
2. You have been already separated for 6 months.
2007-01-05 21:08:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are vague about the commitments in your relationship. Are you married? Is he the biological father of your son? What is the family commitment? Does he have a history of cheating? Did you cheat on him? The answers to these questions should determine whether or not your relationship with this cheater is worth saving or if you and your son should just move-on to a committed loving relationship that includes a marriage contract for both of your protection.
2007-01-05 21:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he cheated on you he should be kissing your a** until you trust him again. If he's not making much effort he's either not feeling very guilty or doesn't want to make it work.
I know from experience that "staying for the kids" doesn't work. It teaches your child it's ok to settle for less than you deserve.
Unless he's willing to bust his butt to win you back, I'd move on. Good luck.
2007-01-05 21:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on !
life is too short, and you have the child to consider.
However I urge you to be civil about matters, and to allow the childs' Father regular access to the child from the start. If he doesn't take up the access offer, re-assess the situation.
The child has done nothing wrong but NEEDS both parents in his life not just 1
2007-01-05 21:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by Hello 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you're the one that separated from him, so I think you should be trying to get him back. This was your choice. Obviously you're being selfish since you expect him to crawl back to you when you're the one that separated. If you want to be lazy and throw your marriage away then don't work it out. If you want to work it out, I suggest marriage counseling, a better attitude, and not being so self centered. This is the "ME" generation and I suggest trying to break that. The whole world doesn't revolve around you. It doesn't take yahoo! answers to figure this out.
2007-01-05 21:02:07 · answer #6 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
don't stay together just for the child because you'll end up unhappy and the child will eventually see that.. iF YOU CAN WORK IT OUT THATS GREAT BUT FROM MY OWN EXPERIENCE, i NEVER TRUSTED MY HUSBAND AFTER HE CHEATED ON ME AGAIN AND I WAS NEVER HAPPY... I ENDED UP STAYING WITH HIM FOR TWO LONG UNHAPPY YEARS JUST FOR OUR SON ... I HOPE IT WORKS OUT BETTER FOR YOU BUT DONT JUST STAY FOR YOUR CHILD.
2007-01-05 21:33:59 · answer #7 · answered by amylynn1976 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one...read some of Dr. Phils advice
"When staying togethr for the kids isn't best"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/37
and "Calling it quits"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/23
2007-01-05 21:19:36 · answer #8 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-01-05 21:00:51 · answer #9 · answered by . 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋