Why am I so jealous?

Question

I'm 21 yrs old. I got married on the 9th of Dec. It was an arranged marriage. But besides that point this has happened in all my relationships. I know insecurities has something to do with being jealous. But what else? I love to go out and have a good time but I can't go with my husband because I'm constantly watching out. I know how girls can be and how some men can be. I don't have a reason not to trust him. So what's my problem? I'm not bad looking but I'm also not a model. So, it's obvious for any guy to choose. Why am I so insecure? Why do I let this stress me out? There could be a million and one reasons why I act the way I do and I want to know them all.......and more importantly how to fix them. Thank you all for you input.

Answer 1

Get over it or you will have somthing to worry about..................

Answer 2

If you think he will cheat then you have a good reason to watch out, or if you feel he's not into you that much. Obviously your jealous because you like him. It's natural, human nature. Maybe you feel your not that important to him. Ask him how he feels about you, does he ever have these feelings too, you don't have to be a model for someone to fall in love with you or even like you, so don't be down on yourself. If it's not easy to ask him anything then talk to his parents/friends and see if there is any real reason why you should be worried (chances are they might lie unless you are close to one of them). Is he paying attention to you? Does he enjoy your company? If you answer yes, then you are probably worried for nothing and it's insecurities. Nobody could tell you how to fix all that. Is his eyes wandering? Is he constantly with someone else other than you? If you answer yes, then you have valid reasons to worry. The only way to fix that is to talk about it, and if it don't stop, get a divorce. If he's just looking, all men do this, then don't worry. It's when they act on it that you need to do something about it.

Answer 3

If you both love and trust each other then try not let it bother you so much. Listen you are young and you dont want to start your marriage of w/constant worry. Congratulations by the way. There are going to be other beautiful women everywhere you go. But out of all the women in the world your husband chose you. You have his heart and you are everything in a woman he wants and needs. You are just as beautiful as they are some you need to smack around a little if they get to close w/ your husband but you are the one. The next time you 2 go out look nice not trashy do your hair,make-up and put on something sexy but not to revealing. If you are confident about how you look its an even bigger turn on to your husband. It bothers you because you want your husband to see you as the sexy vixen you are not eye some other chick I know what your going through still dealing w/it myself. As long as you and your husband have a great relationship emotionally,physically,mentally etc. dont let this get to you not if your husband goes to far hit him where it hurts for me. I hope I helped.

Answer 4

There is one thing that you should know... Most women are in the same situation as you. I am. My husband has never given me a reason to be jelous of other girls, or to insecure about myself. But women naturally act that way. If we see another women even glancing at our dates we want to have a cat fight. The best think to do is to try to take other women looking at your husband asa compliment. They want what you have, and they are NOT going to get it. Public kissing also helps a lot, when you are kissing that special person nothing else in the world matters, and you forget about all the b/s going on in the world.

Answer 5

More than likely you fear not being able to handle the situation if IT (whatever "it" is) happened. Again, more than likely, you were taught to be afraid and that you couldn't handle the situation if IT happened. Look, I know you could handle whatever comes your way. There might be pain involved and hurt and anger and so on but--you'd handle it. Nothing written here is likely to "fix" you but perhaps you have some food for thought and can pursue the thoughts for some help and improvement in your thinking.

Answer 6

jealous could be a sign of insecurity. is there something about yourself personally that you are insecure of? You should just talk to your husband and tell him how you feel. you're not accusing him of anything but just say that you need some support in what ever your insecurity is. or maybe have you been cheated on before and are just afriad of it happening again?

Answer 7

You are only 21 and you are insecure. That is the only problem. You need to think about what makes you a good person and a good wife. Apparently, you don't think much of your attractiveness. There are all kinds of ways to be attractive and looks are just one (granted the one that is most apparent but only one of many).

It is really, really simple to make husbands happy:

1. Don't nag, don't boss around, don't critise.
2. Be supportive, be appreciative.
3. Be an interesting, funny, happy, confident person.
4. And, yes, we tend to like sex, too.

That's pretty much all it takes.

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Answer 8

You already know your answer. (Arranged marriage) does not sound like you are in love. You are feeling this way because you don't know him or anything about him. Why worry when this is what you wanted, because if it were me I think I would want to know everything about a man before I marry him. Good luck!!! I hope you are not living in the US...Because if your man is good looking, he will be looked as if he were a piece of meat...

Answer 9

you might want to spend time together more than out in the clubs b/c the jelousy might build and a huge arguement might start and if he gets fed up he might just file those divorce papers and thats not good.