I'm currently in a relationship with an east Indian women whom I'm in love with and care about a lot. Though i'm not really happy with other aspects of my life right now, especailly since I went to film school and i'm 22 and still looking for a job in the film industry. Though I love this girl, yet her parents were born in India and will never except her dating anyone from outside her race. This girl though treats me with a lot of respect and I love her and i'm crazy about her and I don't want to be with anyone else but no matter how I feel and how she feels her parents will never except her dating me. I love all different types of women and I've dated all different types of women but i'm really attracted to exotic women who have personality like my girlfriend, though i'm a tough guy and I came from a tough neighborhood and i'm a product of a biracial marriage (my fathers irish and my mother if full blooded american indian) yet i guess I just don't know what to do in this situation.
2007-01-05 12:32:26 · 6 answers · asked by DanielIrish 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
i also dated outside of my race and my parents were against it. i felt that i had to live my life for me and to make my own decisions no matter how they felt. so we dated and than moved in together, against my parents wishes. now 11 years later we are married with a wonderful son and no regrets. with time my parents grew to love my husband and adore my son. it has been rough but we have endured it together.
love will truly prevail. let her handle her parents. and if it was meant to be it will work out. only time will tell.
good luck!!
2007-01-05 12:47:15 · answer #1 · answered by miss lady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's terrible i feel your pain.
Maybe you could right a letter to her parents and say something like "I'M sorry I'm not the type of person you dreamed of for your daughter, But i love her twice as much as anyone else ever would I want to be with her for ever and i hope you understand this please except me for who i am because i wouldn't want to be anyone but me"
Or you could pop by where she lives And tell her whats happening. You could forget them and move away and get secretly married with all your friends(But don't do anything regret full) And when you talk to them do it very enthusiastically.
Also you could just end it say i love you so much but if your parents don't then I'm sorry. one more thing you could do call a family therapist to come to where they live and make them talk.
Or maybe you could learn some of there dances that mean stuff or those hand signs I know quite a few I'm pure Canadian but my best friends from India so that's how i know
Good luck and never give up when it comes to love!!!
2007-01-05 12:48:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend has to come to the realization that she has a life.
It is her life, not her parents life. If her parents have a problem with you because you are not Indian, then her parents have a problem, not you or your girlfriend. She has to think of her happiness. it is her life. there is nothing wrong with interracial relationships. The decision should be between the two of you.
Maybe if you were living in India it would a different story. but not here in the West. good luck don't let the myopic , narrow mindedness mentality of her parents ruin a loving relationship that you have between each other.
2007-01-05 12:43:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart! Hopefully if the parents live in a westernized country, they'll come to terms with your relationship with their daughter. I believe they'll get over it.
Good luck, and I hope everything works in your favour.
2007-01-05 12:40:01 · answer #4 · answered by Mz Bee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 22, Be a man and tell your parents to mind their own business. Love is color/racial blind. Although my beliefs are such as your parents, Who really cares what I think. Be Happy man, thats what its all about
2007-01-05 12:42:27 · answer #5 · answered by myothernewname 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's face it you may never have their approval. The real question is can your girl friend accept the fact that her parent's may not accept the relationship and if not what will she do?
2007-01-05 12:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by mead1973 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋