I love him but & I think he's the sexiest man alive. I'm just not sexually atracted to his 6 month baby belly & man boobs. He thinks I'm shalow because I don't look at his body when we make love. It tuns me off so I look at his face instead. He dosent want to work out or eat right in order to give me the body I desire but I don't say anything to him about it unless he asks.
I'm not going to lie to him. I try so hard to wach my weight & fix my hair & spend a long time on my makeup. Is it right for him to think I'm Shalow? Is it right for him to think I should be attracted to him if I'm not? Is it right for him to make me feel bad about my physical preference. It's a matter of taste isn't it? Is it passible for me to make my self attreacted to his body? Is there anyone actually attracted to chubby men? Arent most women attracted to men with a fit build?
2007-01-05 12:31:54 · 8 answers · asked by hotstuff_sexy_thang 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Believe it or not, looks arent the only thing it takes to be sexy. The way he talks, his facial expressions, the things he sayes, the way he touches me! He's HOT! But his torso's not. I married him because I'm in love with him. I'm just not in love with "love handles". That's what I mean by "that's not why I married him." He's not rich, (he only makes a little bit more $ than me) I know that I'm not a shallow person, I just wanted to make sure I wansn't "being" shallow by not "getting off" on his belly & boobs. I never counted on him changing for me, I was hopeful, but I only made mention of this because it astonished me that he felt I should be attrated to his fat. He brought it up not me. He noticed me not checking him out when he took of his shirt. Asking hime to walk with me is a great idea to all of you who mentioned it. Unfortunatly he won't eat anything "lowfat", "light", "Diet", "low sodium", or "low sugar". (sigh) I'll just have to refuse to make him unhealthy dinners, period
2007-01-08 07:01:32 · update #1
Hey, if i take care of my body to please my partner, i think i deserve more or less the same from them. I dont think you're at fault here, obviously by this question youre struggling and feeling bad about what you're experiencnig but IMO.
Just because a man gets a woman, doesnt mean he should turn into some 'King of Queens' character (forgot that guy's name) and try to advertise his man boobs. Thats just disgusting. Humans are not built to be attracted to degrading shows of health.
2007-01-05 13:19:58 · answer #1 · answered by Dabidu 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off "shalow" is spelled shallow. I am an attractive girl and I spend a lot of time trying to look good for my man. However, my man does not have the "perfect body" ,but I am attracted to him because he loves me and treats me right! So to me it sounds like maybe you should spend less time worrying about your physical attributes and work on your mental abilities!
2007-01-05 12:43:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
What reason did you marry him for? Generally, people are attracted to likes, unless there is another, say, financial reason for marriage, or reasons of status. Physical attraction usually is part of the overall package.
2007-01-05 12:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this door doesn't swing both ways~man has this problem it will cost him everything to leave a fat wife if a wife leaves for this reason she still gets everything guys don't have a prayer either way so enjoy what most guys don't screw up is their health and body, this is mostly a girls gig to get the ring and balloon her way in to oblivion,
2007-01-05 13:01:44 · answer #4 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was like that when you married him you can't change him
thats a big no no!!
accept him how he is
don't ever try to change a man in any way or you will lose him
2007-01-05 12:43:01 · answer #5 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps when you manage to get over your issue of being unable to look at his body during lovemaking, he will find it more worthwhile and fair to make an attempt to alter his body shape to one more pleasing to the woman he loves.
I don't believe that I would be willing to work to change my physical appearance for someone who did not already appreciate my -current- one.
2007-01-05 12:50:25 · answer #6 · answered by dagorath1123 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You think he is the sexiest man alive and you love him? You are just disgusted by him. Why don't you dissolve the marriage and let him find an honest woman to love?
2007-01-05 12:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Lay down the law. Tell him it's because you want him to live as long as possible.
2007-01-05 12:40:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋