Overfeeding my son for two years.?

Question

One of the major wedges that caused my wife and I to separate is that she would feed him very large portions of food and make him eat and eat until he threw up. I witnesses this from the time my son was 2 until I had enough and took over the feeding of my son at about age 4. She did not see what she was doing to him, I insisted this was abuse and she said ther was something wrong with him, We took him to the doctor to see and there was nothing wrong. I found a report about mothers overfeeding infants that was on the money and reported there are some side effects from this like low development of motor skills and eating disorders. I have taken this to my lawyer, church and even filed the incident in court papers. No one seems to want to touch this. He is older now and she has stopped the constant overfeeding process because I have screamed it to the world. I have many witnesses. This to me is obsessive compusive behavior that will only be acted out in other ways by her. Correct?

Does this sick woman need some help? This is the person who I must sit back and watch the courts give primary custody of my son. I must stop her from getting custody of my son because I fear she will suffer silently and be damaged for life by this crazy sick action. How can I protect my son and get him away from her even though she has stopped the overfeeding and is doing other regimented things to my son that I can see are turning him into a little boy with no confidence, low self esteem and feels his mother is the boss of everything.

She left the marriage in March of 06 and the court gave her temporary custody. I am fighting this, don;t want to hurt her but want to get help for her and get my son away from her until she stops doing things like punishing him for spilling his water. This is scary and I feel so alone in this battle. her family is wealthy and has hired her top representation that are shooting at me very hard trying to turn the tables. I do not have the big bucks to hire my son an attorney. This is like a very bad nightmare.

Answer 1

You are correct. Stay the course, and get her into counseling. Good luck and I hope your son fares well.

Answer 2

I feel that she may have a problem, but no one will know for sure unless she is submitted for testing. But you did the right thing in seeking help; don't damage her in the process though. Everyone makes mistakes. Keep caution with your son's eating habits so he does not develp disorders.

Answer 3

She sounds like a sick woman. Shes the one who needs to go see some professional help.I think its more than obsessive compulsive. She sounds twisted to me and needs to be in control. Maybe these are some symptoms of that munchhousin disease. What do the doctors think of her behavior?????

Answer 4

Unfortunately, fathers don't have much of a chance against even a bad mom. She's sick. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 5

I am sorry but you need to press charges, she abused your son. SOMEBODY MUST DO SOMETHING. She should not even be allowed to have unsupervised visitation. You should have filed charges against her from the begining. You allowed her to get away with it!!!

Answer 6

IT DOES SEEM TO BE SOMETHING THAT SHOULD BE DISCUSSED WITH A THERAPIST. HOW IS YOUR SON? DOES HE LIVE ALONE WITH HER? IF YOU ARE WORRIED ABOUT HER HURTING HIM BE THERE EVERY CHANCE YOU GET. DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. GO TO CHILDREN AND YOUTH IF YOU SEE THINGS YOU DO NOT FEEL ARE RIGHT. GOD BLESS YOU FOR BEING A DAD THAT CARES. DON'T GIVE UP.

Answer 7

Who knows. Who cares. Why are you staying with her?

Answer 8

i dont get it, is it that serious though?

Answer 9

Your right but you should not have waited so long............