Ok, im having bad luck with relationships and what not with girls. So about a month ago. i was thinkin, what if im gay? (im 14) but im not attacted to guy and i dont wonna be with them sexualy. i think the reason i said that to myself was because i needed a reason that i didnt have luck with girls. i have been in love with girls before my hole life. sence i was like 4, i loved girls. and the past year i just ended a relationship with a girl i was truely in love with but she cheatd on me. so. but ever sence then my minds been eating at me sayin "what if ur gay, what would everybody think blah blah" and i tell myself over and over that im not but my mind keeps sayin mabye . and no offense to gay people or anything i dnt have a problem with them but i would rather die then be gay! i know that sounds mean, but i just really dont wonna be gay. i have gay friends once again and i dont have a problem with them. but is it normal for a 14 year old to question his sexuality? can somebody help me
2007-01-05 12:24:00 · 14 answers · asked by Joe b 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
hey buddy, your not
GAY
don't let someone talk you into being gay...if you want a girl, take a look around and watch how your friends and others interact with girls...then practice,
build your self confidence and you will go a long way...
2007-01-05 12:58:33 · answer #1 · answered by joy ride 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just chill out, you're fine. You are only 14 and although it doesn't feel like it, you're still really really young.
You don't have to make big choices about who you want to settle down with etc etc for AT LEAST another ten years, you've got loads of time to think about it and decide.... no pressure.
The only thing that makes you gay is emotional and physical attraction to other men. If you don't have that, then you are not gay.
I would say though that ALOT of men (maybe 30%) in my experience are in some way bisexual... even if they prefer girls. If you think you are bi, don't worry about it, it's normal.
If you have fallen in love with girls, you are not gay. Simple.
Don't worry about not having any luck with girls either, that's totally normal at your age. Girls fancy older men. As you get older your luck will change.
It sucks being cheated on, feels really bad. Remember though you are really young to be going through all this. I didn't have a serious relationship with a girl until I was about 19.
Good luck!
2007-01-05 12:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by psychedelic_fighter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the people that are gay felt this way at some point in their life..no one wanted to be gay...but I don't think this is your situation....I think you are just afraid that you are gay because you have had some bad relationships with girls...But you're 14 years old...of course you question your sexuality. But don't assume because you are questioning it that you are gay. You certainly don't sound gay to me. I know I am gay and have been for 57 years, Relax...but just remember how awful we as gay people felt when we realized that we were gay...more people should understand those feelings and that it's not a choice for anyone.
2007-01-05 13:26:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that your young and maybe confused just because you have problems with girls at this age dont really mean anything so i wouldnt worry about that too much. u just have to really ask yourself are you attracted to girls/guys or both and only you know the true answer ...and just believe your gut cause its usually right and like i said your young believe me you have not even begun your life yet life,girls,relationships it all gets way better just wait and see ....and p.s. if you were truly gay you would no it fir sure
2007-01-05 12:31:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal to question at 14. But if you're not attracted to guys, and you don't want to be with them sexually, I would say you're definitely not gay. So relax, and wait for the right girl.
2007-01-05 12:27:20 · answer #5 · answered by boobooshurt 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for a 14 y/o to question their sexuality. It sounds more like your mind is trying to make excuses for your lack of luck and you're beating yourself down mentally. Sounds like you're definitely straight and, just like a lot of boys, unlucky with the ladies.
2007-01-05 15:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 02:56:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you can't get a girl, doesn't mean you're gay. You said yourself that you're not attracted to guys. Move on.
2007-01-05 12:41:05 · answer #8 · answered by transitangst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey , don't worry hon, you just haven't met the right girls yet. My husband was a virgin when we married at 20 and he';s straight all the way. I love him so much for keeping himself pure for me and staying committed to our marrieage. Just wait for a girl who is worthy of you. Don't rush into this sex thing, a real love is sooo much worth the wait.
2007-01-05 19:16:43 · answer #9 · answered by curethegays 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
avoid gay folks.you are not gay.you are depressed because of failed relationship with girl.you are too young and you will learn more as you grow older.
2007-01-05 13:07:29 · answer #10 · answered by aqruipnos888 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋