Ok, I've heard so many things about how homosexuals are born gay or chose to be gay. And some of my friends think they choose. But personally i think its something you are born with because i didn't choose to be straight. but i decided to come to the professionals and ask them themselves. So did you choose to be homosexual or were you always like that?
2007-01-05 12:12:40 · 21 answers · asked by dubblehugs 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
and i don't have! to ask this question i just wanted too.
2007-01-05 12:17:47 · update #1
Very kind of you to ask, my Dear. I honestly don't know. All I know is when I first saw my Best Beloved, that was the soul I knew that I wanted to sped the rest of my life with. The fact that she was in the body of a woman wasn't really an issue (I have to admit that until that point I had been rather sexually ambiguous and naive) We've been together now for 26 going on 27 years; so the soul knew what it wanted one might say. I figure what two consenting adults want to do in the privacy of their own bedrooms is no concern of mine and if they want to hold hands or kiss on the streets, please go ahead. There are enough older folk doing the same (and far too many kids sucking face..eeek...) Blessings.
2007-01-05 12:22:28 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As far as I know I never made a choice. I was just born that way.
I remember how our help and sitter would joke about my being "girly" when I was still a kid (about 2 years old). I could not even remember those days. Hence, my being gay was already there since I was born. Otherwise, i wouldn't feel different as I was growing up. My sister is also a lesbian and no one could explain how she became one. Our family is fairly conservative.
I believe the question about choice is more apt in the issue of pursuing homosexuality all throughout our lives or letting a heterosexual marriage/relationship work out.
Homosexuality is nature and nurture.
2007-01-05 23:08:23 · answer #2 · answered by nomamalin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that people are born gay and hormones in puberty activate the sexual attraction that already exists.
As a child, I did not know what sex was so I was neither gay nor straight. Once I hit puberty, I was only attracted to other guys. When I realized that being gay was not what was expected of me, I waited through high school and most of college for my attraction to girls to start; but it never did. After telling my parents I was gay, a few months later my mother told me that she had known since I was 4. Although I have no memory of it, she said that she was looking at a department store advertisement with underwear models and, when she flipped the page, I asked her to turn back. When she asked why, I told her that I liked looking at the men.
I chose to be openly gay after I realized I had always been gay for as long as I had any sexual attraction to other people.
2007-01-05 21:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with those who returned your question by asking why you feel it's necessary to ask?
I mean, we're still human beings, we still deserve the same basic dignity afforded to anyone else, right?
But more to your question, since you were polite enough to as in a non-offencive maner....
I don't know. I personally believe we're just born this way, that it's hard wired and not a disease, disorder or a result of any traumatic experience. Sure, many gays and lesbians may have experienced something sexually traumatic in their lives, but so what? So have many more heterosexuals and it didn't affect their sexuality...it doesn't prove anything in my book.
I know I had crushes on all my female friends when I was little. I know I knew I was gay as a teen...but I also knew it wasn't the "norm" and so to not be picked on or bullied or completely cast out by my peers, I pretended to be straight. I dated boys, even married one.
I knew that being gay in society when I was coming of age was not acceptable by any stretch of imagination...at least not for girls....so I didn't want to be gay. I married thinking that if I acted straight, dated the opposite sex, even married and had kids that it would somehow magically "cure" me....
The truth is, it didn't and I still had to learn to accept who I was even after my divorce.
It took me a long time to come to that realization and finally accept who I was.
Trust me, you can't suddenly change your sexual orientation no matter how hard you try, I know..I've tried.
2007-01-05 23:32:25 · answer #4 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's very sweet of you to ask rather than just agreeing with your friends without having gathered any relevant info or insight into the topic. In my case, I knew I was gay from a really young age. Although I have always had a few instances of being attracted to men, it's never been enough to want to be in a real, emotionally committed relationship. The only 'choice' that was involved in being gay was the choice to either A: be honest and open about my sexuality (i.e. coming out of the closet) or B: keep who I was hidden, i.e. pretend to be straight to fit in with my friends etc.
I've always been a pretty open person, so I knew I had to come out and just be myself. I've never looked back. I'm proud of being born gay, just as heteros are proud of their heterosexuality.
Thanks for asking hun.
2007-01-05 21:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by hannah 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. I never "chose" to be straight. When I began to have sexual feelings my brain and body just reacted to men. The same exact thing happens to gay people except they respond to the same gender. I think it's absolutely stupid to think gay people "choose" to be homosexual. Why would they? Do these people think gay people enjoy having to deal with homophobia and all the other crap?
2007-01-05 23:25:35 · answer #6 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What, you haven't heard? Apparantly the only people who are "professionals" and REALLY know all about homosexuality are the straight fundies who make it taboo to mention. :P
You're going to get mostly the same answer; since I've been attracted to anyone, it's been guys.
2007-01-06 03:12:22 · answer #7 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are born gay or straight. If you are born straight you can be bi but not gay. If you are born gay you can be bi but not straight. This is true 99 percent of the time. One percent of gay people for various reason have chosen that lifestyle.
2007-01-05 21:09:30 · answer #8 · answered by JUSTIN C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was born gay. I had my first crush on a girl when I was in 2nd grade and never looked back!
2007-01-05 20:18:28 · answer #9 · answered by Word 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a homosexual, but I agree with the first person who answered; why do you HAVE to ask this question? If you had any common sense you'd know the answer. Why would someone choose to be discriminated against, to not receive equal rights?
2007-01-05 20:17:17 · answer #10 · answered by 18289 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋