he wanted to commit suicide. It was an ongoing issue so I recommended he talk to a professional but he wanted to talk to only me. I tried my hardest to help him.Come to find out he kept a secret that he had a child he never met w/a one night stand(trash) before we met.I helped him come to terms with it & when he finally met the child he ended our relationship to pursue one with the mother of his child. I found all this out when I was in the hospital this past summer.I was pretty ill & the response I got was never to call him again.There after he manipulated me into thinking I aided him into going back to the mother because I told him he should be a part of his child's life. They r not together anymore.This guy told professed is love for me and even talked marriage, I met his family. So, I'm having an awful time dealing w/ how he treated me after I helped him with his serious threats of suicide, he doesn't even show regret for what he has done to me. Ironically, i'm seeking prof. now.
2007-01-05 11:57:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You've already made the first step with coping by seeking counseling. My heart goes out to you, and time heals all wounds, or at least, it helps. Believe it or not, it helps to get in touch with new people, try different activities, and socialize. It doesn't sound like he is good for you anyway; he was looking for an emotional crutch. Someday, you'll meet someone who will bring joy and happiness to your life, who gives as well as takes. Good luck.
2007-01-05 12:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by busy_kona_b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While your spending your precious time beating yourself up over a social pathetic guy, he's looking for his next victim! Look up social pathetic, and you'll see your so called liar, heartless-friend! Who keeps it a secret that they have a child? People that make it a game out of "calling WOLF" on suicide, are more than just sick in the head! You need to stop beating your self up for being normal and believing the bull crap he handed out, and LEARN from this experience. Of course you can't blame every guy who comes along, but you know what the signs are now for people like him. When he wouldn't go to a professional, and could ONLY talk with you, right there was a big sign.If he was that bad, he would of wanted to go to the emergency room for help, because he would of been scared of the awful feeling he was feeling!! People who are going to kill themselves usually don't go around telling everyone before they do it! You just got caught up in the mess, and I am sure a lot of other females have too. His day will come. But in the meantime be thankful you are out of his ugly web, and know that he would of just pulled you under more. Believe me. Do yourself a favor and tell the heartless loser to lose the number, and feel proud of yourself, cuz it's gonna be one of the best moves your gonna make in your life!!
2007-01-05 20:30:07 · answer #2 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want straight honest opinions, I would say don't worry about this guy, just leave him be. I have had experience with these type of men and let me tell you it leads to nothing but pain. If this guy is what he seems, he is only coming back to you because he feels he has no other options. A chance for a new life got handed to him, so he took it without looking back. Meanwhile he left you in the dust. When that new life didn't work out for him, he came back to the life he had before, where most likely he thinks its safe. I can guarantee you that if this guy is anything like that, he is going to continue leaving you to pursue opportunities for a new life whenever they come. Then most likely he will come crawling back to you when those options don't pan out, every single time. So in the end you have to make this decision for yourself but in my opinion, you need to leave him fast before he does it again and again and leaves you with nothing but an empty shell for a heart.
--and something for you to consider, people who actually want to commit suicide dont tell people they are going to do it because they dont want to get talked out of it. most times when somebody tells you theyre going to do it, is when they either want attention or need a friend.
2007-01-05 20:11:08 · answer #3 · answered by sweetgiggles1225 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to seek professional help. Don't know if it will help but there are a TON of scammers out there and you fell for one--big time. Many smart folks fall for a line or lines. Do your grieving, ask yourself over and over again how it was you believed him (or whatever words you use for that) and then, think about what you missed that led you to get involved with him and work on avoiding the same or similar thing. Good luck.
2007-01-05 20:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to manipulate you and you are doing what is right for you. Good Job. I know it is hard to deal with the pain of a lost love and that may feel like you may never find that connection with someone again, but in time as you heal and come to terms with everything, you may be ready to try again.
2007-01-05 20:17:33 · answer #5 · answered by Renee B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is a user and you should consider yourself lucky to be rid of him. The threat of suicide is a way that some people use to get someones sympathy. Do you know if he ever actually attempted? I would say probably not.
I say good riddance to bad rubbish.
2007-01-05 20:10:38 · answer #6 · answered by justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeoooowch... you have my sympathy.
2007-01-05 20:17:23 · answer #7 · answered by M T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋