I have been with my wife for 10 years most of them married and it was a good life until i guess my daughter came along of which we both wanted but i became sad of all the mood swings etc and with my hobby/job i was out alot of the time of which now i realise but we eventually split up and she willingly moved to her mothers in the town of which she worked and my daughter went to playschool and i was left on my own.
Then i realised what hard work she had put in to the house etc, she finally got a house in said town and we gave it another go promising new things of which was good for a while but as always went back to the start and i had to go, I admit it is most of my fault with a beer problem but never violence and also her attitude but now its been 3 months and i see her and my daughter often and i want my life back.
I have given up beer apart from one day at the weekend and have lost weight (not that i needed to ) and have started to get fit so please tell me what can i do
2007-01-05 11:46:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage counseling or individual counseling. Trust me, it'll help with ALOT of things.
2007-01-05 11:49:54 · answer #1 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps she is sick of giving you chances? I know that sounds mean, but you can only be hurt so many times before it becomes tiresome. Perhaps however if she knows you have given up drinking (congrats by the way!) and want to put more time into the relationship she will want to give it another go. You sound like you really realise that it was both of your faults though, so thats marvellous and the first step back. Talk to her about it, tell her what you have said on here (well not that you said it on here, but the same kind of wording) and ask her for another chance. Obviously she loves you or she wouldnt have come back before, so just talk, adn if she needs it give her a bit of time
2007-01-05 19:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by jacks my boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FCUK 'EM. if i could I'd buy you a pint. its about time you sorted where you want to be in life. many of Fathers only see there kids at weekends, and normally the relationship they have between them strengthens and has never been better.
if you want to chill out, have a pint with out all the aggro, not explaining where you've been all the time, then id say get out.
at the end of the day, women come, and women go, but your family and you mates (normally the lads) will always be there for you.
you need to get your self a bit of pride, dignity, some bollocks...
remember, "to love one self is the start of a life long romance"
2007-01-05 20:23:31 · answer #3 · answered by spazticus_autisticus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BEG! I really hate the idea that old fashioned begging seems to escape the minds of so many men today.
If you truely want her back, and not just because she's not there anymore, but because you really love her and that life, then make every effort to woo her.
Flowers, then beg, dating again is really important, then beg, apologize, then beg, apologize again, then beg.
Candles, selfless surprises (ones just for her) etc... you get the idea.
Show her how much you want her. That will get a woman every time (until it's stalking!)
2007-01-05 20:05:09 · answer #4 · answered by goosehds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you want her back you want what she does for you, like washing your clothes,fixing you dinner keeping the house clean for you and picking up after you,having sex when you want it.Need I go on.If she takes you back and I said if she does you will have to change your ways.Marriage is what YOU make it.Remember if you had to do everything she does in a day you would have mood swings to.If men had to do everything a woman has to do we all would be in big trouble.
2007-01-05 20:38:26 · answer #5 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not all about you. Talk to your wife and see what she needs from you to consider taking you back. Like more time with her and your daughter, help around the house, help with erronds, etc.
2007-01-05 19:55:30 · answer #6 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SOUND LIKE YOU ARE A GOOD GUY AND YOU SOUND LIKE YOU REALLY WANT HER BACK. FOR STARTERS, YOU NEED TO DECIDE WHICH IS MORE IMPORTANT, YOUR FAMILY OR YOU BEER. YOU DRINKING CAN MACK YOUR MARRIAGE GO BAD REAL QUICK. SHE NEEDS YOU AND SO DOES YOUR DAUGHTER. THINK OF IT LIKE THIS, YOUR DAUGHTER WILL BE WHAT SHE SEES YOU DO. IF YOU DON'T WANT THAT FOR HER, THEN DO RIGHT BUY HER. AND FOR YOUR WIFE, LET HER KNOW HOW YOU REALLY FEEL ABOUT HER. LET HER KNOW THAT YOU WANT TO DO BETTER. ASK HER FOR HER HELP. LET KNOW THAT YOU UNDERSTAND THAT IT IS HARD FOR HER AND YOU UNDERSTAND AND THAT YOUR TRULY SORRY. TREAT LIKE YOUR QUEEN. I HOPE YOU LOTS OF LUCK. I HOPE EVERYTHING IS IN FAVOR. GOOD LUCK
2007-01-05 20:36:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to tell her how you feel and really honestly change things.
2007-01-05 19:49:24 · answer #8 · answered by amanda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋