ive split up with partner who was violent and abusive towards me but it happened in front of our child social service were involed at one point and have but contacted again recently by the police as my ex is harrassing me they are not taking any actions at the moment, he is the father of the child could you tell me if hes has a good chance of getting access to the child as i dont trust him with her?
2007-01-05 11:37:53 · 12 answers · asked by kaykess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
with the child social services involved maybe not if there is proof that he is a danger to the child. but in most cases a judge will award the non-custodial parent visitation. it could even be supervised visitation.
2007-01-05 11:46:05 · answer #1 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact Women's aid for advice- you'll get a lot more sense there than here.
National Domestic violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247 should point you in the direction of the right advice and support.
You have a right to be safe, and so does your child. You could consider taking out an injunction against your ex if he is harrassing you. If he ignore that, the police have to take action. Again , the helpline will advise you. Good luck and stay strong
2007-01-05 19:55:21 · answer #2 · answered by nealo d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has the exact same rights that you do. That means he has full rights of access. Your best bet is to contact a lawyer and have him do the same and then negotiate custody. You do not have the right to restrict his access to your child, is the issue. Be very careful claiming abuse. Any untrue statements will come back to haunt you. If a court even suspects you are attempting to get around his rights, you could be the one losing rights of custody. That's why this situation is best handled with the help of two lawyers and a formal negotiated agreement. Honesty, fairness and the concept of best interests of the child will play the dominant roles in deciding your arrangement. Any attempt to get around that paradigm will likely result in extremely negative consequences. Ask your lawyer for advice.
2007-01-05 19:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex was abused by her husband . social services werent involved but he wasnt allowed to come near her or the child until the court case had been and then the access would be sorted out . she let him see the child but he had to pick her up from a local supermarket so that there were plenty of people there just incase anything happened there would be cctv and loads of witnesses.
2007-01-05 19:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by bob a builder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were married to your partner then he has what's known in legal jargon as, `parental responsibility`. You gained this automatically when you gave birth to your child. This entitles him to the same influences over the child as you, for example religion, what schools to send the child to etc.
If you were not married to your partner then he has no parental responsibility to the child and you are in full control. This applies whether he is named on the birth certificate as the father or not.
To gain this he has to get you to mutually sign an agreement in a local court, but however, you must prove that he is a liability or a risk to the child to prevent him getting this.
This is only known to me through my own experience and I would strongly suggest that you seek legal advice.
This law is there to protect children, but it has been a pain in the **** for all genuine fathers like me who just want to see their kids.
Good luck.
2007-01-05 21:25:11 · answer #5 · answered by Mighty Hammer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on weather social services consider him a risk to your daughter , they prob do or they would not of got involved in the first place and he would have to take you to court first which usual takes ages and he would have to undergo a assessment with a court welfare officer ? how old is your daughter and does she want to see him if she is about 8 or above her wishes will be taken into consideration , have you thought of moving away where he just cant find you ?
2007-01-05 19:52:31 · answer #6 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends if you were married, he would have some rights seek advice from a solicitor, you maybe able to get supervised visits where child is taken to a centre and father will be supervised
2007-01-06 13:36:44 · answer #7 · answered by fireblade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sadly i think hes still got a good chance of getting access- i know someone whos been very very bad but still got the right to see his kids-and guess what he fought for it just to wind the mother up then vanished cos he couldnt be bothered-sorry but i think he has a good chance but god knows why-good luck hun-ive been there xx
2007-01-05 20:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by buggerlugs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably supervised through acas,you go to a meeting place and a member of acas is there with him the whole time.
2007-01-05 19:58:50 · answer #9 · answered by NATALIE W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first go to d social welfare office.then,tell em ur prob.take whtever doc u got to use for ur gain or against him.then,listen to wht they say.if u can afford,get a good lawyer.if not,they'll hire one for u.then,rest is done by d court.
2007-01-06 07:12:52 · answer #10 · answered by Ms Hermione Granger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋