When i hear his voice i am trembling and so happy only his name can makes my heart beats faster and it lasted 2 years...His parents like me very much :) but my.....and the reason is religion....my parents even do not want to hear about him cause he is muslim...i want to be with him but i adore my parents i love them so much and do not want to hurt...PLEASE who can advice smth.and if U HAVE THE SAME SITUATION (MAYBE MARRIED) is it really so difficult and impossible to live with muslim boy for christian girl as everybody used to tell me???
2007-01-05 11:37:09 · 12 answers · asked by luda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
His mother is Christian ...and he also celebrate some christian feasts and belive in my religion.
2007-01-08 01:39:43 · update #1
My grandmother is christian and my grandfather is Muslim they married had 7 kids and 15 grand kids and they lived a wonderful life together and are still in love with each other..
As a result we are an extremely open , diverse,and extremely tolerate family.I know their are a lot of stereotypes but you do what you think is right.P.S.My grandmother's family did not accept him at first but with time they saw how he treated her they have learned to love him.
My advise to you is to see if there is anything expected from you after marriage.And yes it can work and with time, patients and kindness your family will accept it..
2007-01-05 23:46:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing! I am christian and my boyfriend of 2 years is muslim! We recently have taken our relationship down to the point where we don't see each other much or talk because we want to wait until marriage for anything. I think it is working out very well for us. I took interest in islam and he started to learn about christianity. He didn't like it at all. I didn't blame him because i was questioning it before we met. I am now thinking a lot about converting. I just like the religion better over all. We both thought abut the same things you guys did. About getting married in a mosque and all that. I never met his parents because they didn't like that i wasn't muslim. Now they are starting to be okay with me. Probably because i am learning about their religion. For you: i dint think they will ever truly understand. Only time will show them this. Maybe look more into islam. They cant tear you apart. It will just bring in a lot of conflict with his family. Showing them you will be a good wife will also take time. You have to show them this.
2016-03-28 21:29:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is possible. Before I started dating my current boyfriend--whom I love very much by the way--I was secretly engaged to a very nice Muslim guy from Iran. For the most part, our relationship was great and we had no problems (between the two of us) as far as religion was concerned. He was Muslim, I am Christian, we both cared about one another very much, and that was all that mattered. (I must mention, however, that like you I received a lot of flack from my family--hence the reason why our engagement was a secret.) With that said, if you truly love your mate and want to be with him, you should not let the opinions of your family come between your relationship with him. Love comes in many ways and you should celebrate it...not run away from it.
And by the way, just in case you were wondering, we had a mutual breakup. It had nothing to do with religion and/or race issues. We, for the most part, just weren't ready for that type of commitment.
2007-01-05 11:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem will come from him and his family, they wont really accept you as a christian, and your parents know this. Most muslims dont really accept people for who they are, they expect you to change for them. This would mean raising your children muslim, and not christian. You would basically be betraying yourself and your family if you got together with this muslim guy. Dump him now! He will never give up his family for you, so why should you give up your family for him?
2007-01-05 11:40:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what is most important to you. Put God first or put your own desires above His. God has given you the right to make that decision for yourself. He also gives you the right to live with the consequences of your decisions. Many times in life, we come to the fork in the road and have to make a decision. Some decisions are minor and have little consequences either way. Other decisions can affect out eternal existence. Choose what is important to you. Choose what is Best.
2007-01-05 14:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Religion is one of the biggest predictors of relationship success - if you share the same values you're likely to succeed, but if you share different ones you're likely to fail.
That's not the same as saying "you WILL fail" - but it's a warning sign. It will cause problems with your relationship, guaranteed. Can you overcome them? Sure. Will it be easy? No. Already it looks like you might have in-law problems if you get married...
If you can, it might be better to give up on him. However, if you can't bear to, talk to this boy and talk to him about these problems. If he's willing to compromise and listen to your fears he's a good catch, whatever his faith.
Good luck and God Bless.
2007-01-05 11:40:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no definite answer for this question. What i can suggest is that u do some soul searching. Priorities, what must come first. In the situation, it is doubtfull that you wont break other people hearts, either yr bf or yr family. You must weigh things accurately before choosing your path. Life partners you can choose, but not your family. they are related with blood. so my guess is, marry him and perhaps later your family will come to their senses and accept your destiny.
2007-01-07 17:36:08 · answer #7 · answered by iskandar99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you & him should have a talk with your parents.. its not going to be easy but its worth it if you are so much in love...
religion is one of the factors in a relationship that comes in the way..I used to be in love with a guy that is a roman catholic & i m muslim..so i know its hard.. cos his mum objected to the relationship...
I suggest.. have a talk with both parties present & see where you want to go from there
2007-01-05 11:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by Belle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Religion must be part of the equation, because we base so many of our choices on it. But the one thing you should be very very aware of. If there is a falling away later down the road. The chances are very good he will take your children back to his homeland. And it does not matter how entrenched he is here in America. He will want them raised back there. It would be wise to side step some serious problems by not continuing with him.
2007-01-05 17:01:38 · answer #9 · answered by swamp elf 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
would you be ready to convert to Islam for him?
would he be willing to become Christian for you?
have you talked it through? things like how you would raise your kids - religion, culture etc
discuss this with him then worry about the parents
good luck
2007-01-05 11:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by rabiyah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋