ok, so she's only 15. she's excited about the baby, she knows who the dad is, and she wants to keep it. i can't picture her as a mother- not yet at least, all she seems to care about is cute little baby clothes. she wants to finish school at home. How can I make her understand that this baby isn't a game, that it will change her life? is this just something i should get over? help!
2007-01-05 11:34:06 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
The same thing happened to my daughter and it was the hardest thing our family had to go through. First of all, I hope her mother is a caring loving person. After the shock and screaming was over, she told me she wanted to keep her baby. She did. My daughter had to grow up very quickly and learn to be a mom to her new baby. I was there for my daughter every step of the way even there when savannah was born. You DONT stop loving your children just because things dont turn out like you plan for them. I hope your friend has someone that loves her and will be there for her. Shes also going to need her true friends there for her. We found out how many TRUE friends my daughter had and there werent many to be found. BE her friend and encourage her to talk to SOMEONE who can give her guidance. I wish her all the best.
2007-01-05 14:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by psst.... its me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh trust me. She will learn this baby isnt a game by the time she's super pregnant, or has an non stop crying newborn to deal with.
Every new mother goes through the elated first stage of pregnancy where all the thought is a cute baby and awesome little clothes. Reality sets in when you're the size of a house boat.
Just be her friend and help encourage her.
2007-01-05 11:36:16 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im a teen mother,I got pregnant when I was 15 and I regreted the whole thing.Im a Senior now and my parents are helping through the whole thing but her father isn't doing anything for me and it's the hardest thing to hear my baby say "da da" when Im the one who is supporting her.I am now 17 and I finishing school and I plan to go on with my life and support my baby without her father.HAVING A BABY IS NOT A JOKE!!! It's hard work tell her reality will kick in SOON!!
2007-01-05 13:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by MzDoodyBaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that you can change her mind. Something like this is such a life changing experience and she will only learn that through experience. At 15, she is obviously not mature enough to really understand the complete gravity of the situation but it will soon be crystal clear.
You sound like a good friend. Just keep reminding her and offer to help if you can. It's her decision in the end and hopefully she will make the best of it.
2007-01-05 11:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by breakfromthekids 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do her parents know?....if not they should and so should the boys parents so that there can at least be a mature view on the situation i still cannot get over the fact that these CHILDREN are out having sex where on earth do they think they get the right your not even old enough to vote or drink so what makes them think they can have sex not only is it stupid but selfish when they are really that thick and pigheaded not to use protection at least! screw your own life up fine go ahead but no where does it say its ok to make a baby or child or other person pay for your mistakes and that's just what will happen when she cant provide and her parents who probably thought they were almost done raising her have to start all over again.
2007-01-05 12:33:57 · answer #5 · answered by RawAngel007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not quite sure if you are fishing for a particular answer here but I don't think mine is going to be it. Let her be happy. She will realize on her own and in her own time. Having a baby is difficult but it's not the end of the world for a 15 year old. She will learn what she needs to. Just try and help her if you can when she hits a tough spot. That's what a true friend would do.
2007-01-05 11:40:09 · answer #6 · answered by zara01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make her understand. I wish you could. She is going to get a huge wake up call when the baby comes. Can she talk to some other teen moms in the area? Some school systems have programs for them and they talk to younger girls about not getting pregnant. Can she talk to to some new moms who are adults? Even with a husband and a college degree, being a mom is hard!
She needs to consider adoption. She and the baby would be better off ... and I speak to this from the point of view of a teacher of many teen moms.
I'm so glad you aren't getting caught up in the "excitement." You sound like you have a great head on your shoulders.
2007-01-05 11:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be supportive, find a grown-up mother she can talk to, get her a book about pregnancy & parenting! Open adoption is always an option too. She can give the baby to someone who can't have kids & still visit & see the child as it grows! Just be supportive, but also don't be afraid to tell her when she is making a mistake!
2007-01-09 09:52:00 · answer #8 · answered by Boppysgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she's coping as well as she can considering she's so young. The best you can do is help her out emotionally when she has the baby. Do you not want her to have it? You can't change her mind and even if she thinks its "playing house" right now...she'll realize when the baby is screaming at 3AM. You should just try to be there for her when it hits her.
2007-01-05 11:37:51 · answer #9 · answered by Tiffany C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is thinking ahead at least. She knows she can't go to school and take care of the baby at the same time. At least she is prepared and isn't gonna pawn the baby off on her parents to take care of.
2007-01-05 11:37:08 · answer #10 · answered by Wendy H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋