I have had this friend and we've been like so close for two years now. She is so awsome and we used to hang out all the time and do lots of things together...but she has been struggling with a hidden issue of abuse when she was little. It seems like she has had problem with men and stuff like that, but lately she has seemed better. She had gotten counseling and medication for it. Sometimes though it still seems to be there, that fear of men, so she basically just dosen't like them at all. I really though love her as a friend, but my mom has a lot of suspicions of her. So I have stayed away from her for awhile, but she has talked to me again so she wants to get back together as friends. I don't know if I should, I want to help her, but my parents really don't want me to associate with her, regarding her problems...but I think I should help her should I?
2007-01-05 11:33:27 · 3 answers · asked by Daughter of a Coma Guy 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Okay, listening to your side of the story it does not make sense that your parents would not want you to be around her. I would say that you need more specific information of what your parents are concerned about. Does this friend influence you to do wrong things, or are you depressed after being with her, or does she attract the wrong kind of guys because of her issues with men? Over all, if you are under your parents' roof and they are paying the bills, you need to do what they say. But it sounds like they are open to reason, so I think that the 3 of you need to talk about their objections and you need to talk about how you are only trying to help her. Do you have other friends? If so that should make your parents feel better. If this is your only friend and she seems to have problems, then I can see why your parents would have a hard time with it.
2007-01-05 12:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your parents want you to NOT be there for a friend because they have issues. Thats so sad and I would hope they would want your friends to be there for you when you go through your issues. You see we ALL have issues - they just come out a different times in life. Be a friend to your friend. Your parents should know better.
2007-01-05 19:40:38 · answer #2 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is your life.she is your friend.who says your parents are always right.do whats best to you
2007-01-05 19:43:28 · answer #3 · answered by lalanoesbest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋