Major help wanted!!Problematic relationship with husband :(?

Question

please if any of you could give me some sound advice. im a 23 yr old muslim girl, and ive had my nikah, that is i AM married but i havent moved in with my husband. he lives in london & im in pakistan. he was here fr a few months and we got to know each other in every respect. initially when we got engaged around may '06 things were gr8 bw us. right after we got married, things have gotten really bad. its like we're 2 diff people. specially him. hes changed. we have difficulty getting our thoughts across to each other, he doesnt even tolk to me fr long on skype. incase ure wondering, no im the only woman in his life, he says he loves me, wants to marry me as in move in, wants to spend the rest of his life with me, yet i feel he doesnt mean it because he doesnt do anything to show that he really does. we've been struggling to make our relationship work fr the past 5 months, but in vain :( both of us do want to be with each other but..... things dont seem to fall in place. help......!

Answer 1

well the problem is you and him do not know each other well enough....I don,t think you should move all the way to London until you get to know this man better.If things don,t seem to be falling in place ,then that could be a sign to you.im not saying don,t have a relationship with him,Im only saying give it time,you have not known him long enough>to know someone in 5 months is not very long.If this realtionship is true love,love will always find a way,so don,t worry if it is meant to be it will be....I do think you need to give it more time before rushing off to london....good luck

Answer 2

If you have been trying for months and nothing seems to be happening to further the relationship in a productive way then I would say it is time to end it. You should have moved in with your husband after you married him. Absence does not make the heart grow fonder! If it was meant to be that you would be together then it would have happened by now. I am sorry about your problem and I hope things work out one way or another for you. Good Luck

Answer 3

Have you talk about this to him? if not yet, then you should.
You will get to nowhere if he doesnt know that you are struggling to make ur relationship works. Tell him that you love him & you find that the communication between you both have collapsed-and you dearly want to work it out together w him.
Lond distance relationship is not easy, especially if you both are apart after spending time 4 a short while only-vbut it can still work if you both truly love each other & try to make it work.

Answer 4

The problem with long distance relationships is that it tends to affect the relationship after some time.

You are both doing the right thing by trying to make the relationship work.

Maybe your Iman can help you since he is closer to you. Speak to your husband first, since that is the rule in Muslim world, and get his approval to speak to the Iman. Maybe the two of you can invite the Iman to visit your home (when your husband returns, of course) and speak to him in private there.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

its not gonna work out for you two, just consider it a lesson learned, you can't come to the "us" and feel like you fit in with americans its just to hard, I'm not meaning that in a bad way, its just you two are from two diffrent places

Answer 7

if he doesn't change during the engagement, he won't change during the marriage. Don't waiste your time.