I have been trying to figure out how come the most of married people don't get along with their in-laws. Do you understand it?
2007-01-05 11:21:57 · 11 answers · asked by JACQUELINE T 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel that everyone just really love their son or daughter and want the best for them. I don't really think in-laws mean any harm. It's just sad that people go through bad situations with the in-laws. Don't know if we will ever really understand the problem with in-law but I do advise everyone to try their best to get along. Let just try to do the best we can after all we all have something in common. We all love the same person. The son or the daughter which ever one we are speaking on.
2007-01-05 11:31:38 · answer #1 · answered by relationcounseling 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I do and I don't. In my previous marriage, I didn't "get along" with my mother in law (not an outright war, but I just didn't like her). But it was mostly because she and my then-husband have never had a good relationship. He told me some horrible things about her, going back to his childhood, and I could never like or respect her having found out these things. My current in-laws, however, are a totally different story; my husband has a wonderful relationship with his parents, and they have accepted me into the family with the open arms. I think, a lot depends on the dynamics already existing within the family (between parents and children); if there is some sort of dysfunction or misunderstanding in the family already, throwing another (unrelated) person into the mix can upset the delicate balance. But in a healthy family, a "newcomer" is welcomed - and if they are a team player like the rest of the family, they "fit in" beautifully.
2007-01-05 19:29:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I suppose there are some people that get along with their in-laws. I don't mind my father in law. He is nice to me, but my mother in law always has a mean critical voice when speaking to people. It is not just me so I know it is her. She is mean to everyone. So that is why I don't get along with her. As for my sister in laws they are ok, and my brother in law and his wife are very nice to me. I guess for the most part I like my in laws. It is just my mother in law. Often though when you marry someone the family doesn't think you are good enough so I believe that starts the whole ball rolling.
2007-01-05 19:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by goldensparkler61 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the person. Sometimes I get along great with my in-laws, and other times I don't. Things get said or done and people's feelings get hurt, just like in a regular relationship. Jealousy can happen too. I just try my best to be friends with them.
2007-01-05 19:26:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
IN-LAWS are nothing but evil and really I don't know why. I bet it is because you are an outsider coming into the family they already had and they don't like new comers. I have been married 3 times and all 3 sets of in-laws have been evil except for 1. My current mother in-law is by far the most evil bi**h ever
2007-01-05 19:27:41 · answer #5 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I get along with my inlaws great they are just like my familly.I think alot of it is people usually look for people like their parents so sometimes they are so much alike that they cant get along.Also the inlaws sometimes dont think the person their child has choose to marry is good enough in a sense.
2007-01-05 19:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by amanda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's selfishness. You gotta try to get along and know when to keep your mouth shut. You marry the family too. Learn to get along with each other. There are some situations that are reasonable, but your husband or wife should be sticking up for you in these situations. Your husband and wife come first, then your family. No, blood is not thicker than water.
2007-01-05 19:29:19 · answer #7 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Well thats a question for the ages....As for our house my husband gets along with my mom fine its me and his family that have the problem, especially his mom. I think from the mothers point of view no woman can take care of her son like she can so she just dislikes her for really no reason.
2007-01-05 19:36:38 · answer #8 · answered by I wanna stay on maternity leave! 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Its the generation gap. Sometimes your in laws can hate you because you do not represent the sort of child that they would have raised.
2007-01-05 19:25:23 · answer #9 · answered by Foxy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure-but my mother in law ,acts like she would prefer for me and my husband not to be together,If you find out the answer please let me know.
2007-01-05 19:25:47 · answer #10 · answered by youngprincez23 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋