my hubby and i have a four close freinds who we go out with all the time ,i feel like they are using us ,it all realy started when two of them got married and we ended up looking after 2 of there 6 kids for a week , no mention of retering the favor!, the hubby of the married couple rings my hubby all the time for lifts and favours then when we ask for a favor or lift in retern they are to busy , i did thr flowers and cake for there wedding with only a few days notice , the girl of the third couple has everyone running round after her and feeling sorry for her she has a job and her own place and only one child and all her family are real suportive so why does she need simpaty ?
then they won a holiday for four the cost only £70 each incuding flights . guess who they asked no not us who do them loads of favors no the other couple , then they found out six could go at a cost of £199 for the additional two ,
well we just thought we would just share all costs between the four
2007-01-05
11:16:57
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guests oh no! how wrong could we be infact we was expected to pay £279 eachso £558 per couple to the other guests £158 per couple . when we asked why she said the other couple was both single parents ! they both have good jobs i have three children and we trying to start a business and so we not so well of so i a bit cheesed of
today we were asked to take them to the airport and fetch them back we said ok if they took us when we went and they said if he was not working what good is this to us do they not realise they taking p***
how do i sort it out without falling out
ps the two girls are my cousins
2007-01-05
11:25:20 ·
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First of all honey if these are your friends i would hate to see how your enemies treat you. Get away from these people and if that isnt possible put your foot down and tell them what you think. Maybe i am sounding crass, but dont let people walk all over you. You need to make a stand and let your feelings be known. Yes I would split the cost between the six people. That is the only way to disburese the expenses fairly. THe other options you have is to mention to the group that you and your husband also need childcare from time to time and that while you dont mind helping with the errands and group rides, everyone needs to do their share and take turns with the load. Be assertive and be strong. You can do this and make it work.
2007-01-05 11:28:05
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answered by ? 3
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You need to write these losers a letter explaining to them that the old saying "birds of a feather flock together", rings true for them. Its funny how both of these moochers used you guys and then when it came to who they wanted to reward, they chose each other. Tell them that the friendship is over because you are done being used, and that had you known that they were such users you would have included a bill for each of the "favors" you did for them.
2007-01-05 19:21:43
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answered by Foxy 2
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dont really think you can sort out without falling out they are freeloaders taking advantage of both of you your good nature a kindness . the days of helping other people out are long gone the world is full of people only out for themselves pity really cos the world could be a better place . but next time they ask you for a favour say no they will soon get the message
2007-01-06 05:45:23
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answered by JAMES W 1
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Next time they ask for a favour tell them you are too busy. what with 3 kids n all, don't let them take the P - - - anymore. Been there, family doesn't come into it. Sounds like they'll need you before you'll need them too. x
2007-01-06 14:37:47
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answered by RUTH M 3
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Got to be short and sweet, if your think all this stuff, don"t be taken for mugs, good- friends you never call to question, but you must be strong and say what you think. Sorts the good from the bad, not many good about.
2007-01-05 19:37:53
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answered by oop139gg 3
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Bunch of ungrateful sponges.
How do you fix it? Stop saying yes, ok I'll do it. And say I'm sorry but were busy. Then go watch some tv.
2007-01-05 19:22:26
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answered by Anonymous
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Definitely taking the piss,tell them straight-what a bloody cheek! Nice people normally get **** on like that
2007-01-05 20:10:57
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answered by NATALIE W 3
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Does it really matter that they are cousins. Be straight with them and tell them that they are taking advantage of you. They may be family but they are certainly not your friends. tell them to find a couple of other mugs to take advatage of and cut contact with them.
2007-01-06 06:36:49
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answered by D B 6
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What on earth gives you the impression they are friends?
2007-01-05 19:35:12
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answered by Grampy 2
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stop being friends with them, who cares if they're your cousins!
2007-01-06 07:05:08
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answered by Anonymous
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