a girl i work with bought me a movie as a christmas gift. My wife also got me the same movie after the friend and got mad saying that the girl has feelings for me and I should give her gift back. I personally believe that giving a gift back after you already accepted it is wrong. But my wife thinks that by me choosing to keep the girls gift that I am choosing the girl over her. She said it's a girl thing? Now, should I give back the gift and if not am I choosing the girl over my wife?
2007-01-05 11:14:48 · 9 answers · asked by armyscrogg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am currently in iraq and a female that i work with bought me a movie as a gift. She bought other people gifts as well. But my wife had unknownst to me bought the same movie for me. Well, my wife got upset and asked me to return the friends gift to her. I personally believe that you never return a gift from someone cause that is really rude. I respect my wife's feelings but I don't feel that I should give the movie back. We are just good friends and that's it. Is it wrong to keep the gift?
2007-01-05 17:22:53 · update #1
LOL!! YEAH IT'S WRONG! It doesn't take a brain surgeon to figure that out. Start spending your money on your wife and your family. Not random girls.
2007-01-05 11:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, there's no way that some random co-worker should be giving a married man Christmas presents. If it were an office gift-exchange which everyone was involved in, that's one thing, but if she just gave one to you, that's really inappropriate of her.
Is there some way that you can exchange the gift at a store? If so, do that, and buy your wife something nice with the store credit.
2007-01-05 11:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong. There is nothing wrong with people of the opposite sex being friends. My best friend is a male as long as you co workers knows that you are happily married and doesn't try to come b/t you and your wife than i don't see it as a problem. Just keep in mind that if your wife ask you to stop being friends with this female than that is what you will have to do if you plan on keeping your happy marriage.
2007-01-05 11:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by SexyR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is pretty tricky. If this friend is only your friend and not a friend of the two of you then that is your first problem. It is just a movie, but your wife is always first (even when she is second) in this case. You can nicely say my wife got me one already. and express your appreciation to her for her effort. Then consider, are you attracted to the other woman? Is she attracted to you? Rule of thumb, focus on your spouse and her needs and desires. Let her know she is always #1. And she should do the same for you. Love. Marriage .Commitment. Good Luck.
2007-01-05 12:08:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should give her back the gift and tell her that your wife already bought you that movie, I also would tell her at the same time that your wife is a bit wary and ask her not to buy you any more gifts
2007-01-05 11:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jane smith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope that you and your wife know what love is. Give the gift back man. If you have no reason to have it. Or just give it away to someone.
2007-01-05 11:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by Alien51 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that if your married even if the person is your 'friend' they should be friendly with your spouse. I would think the safe thing to do if I was the friend I would get the couple a gift. Both my friend and there spouse that is more appropriate.
2007-01-05 11:39:36 · answer #7 · answered by I wanna stay on maternity leave! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give it back. Tell her thanks but the wife was pretty upset with it and you can't keep it.
You should not be that "friendly" with this woman either...your wife will be keeping an eye on that you can be sure!
2007-01-05 11:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not if you two are only friends, then there is nothing wrong with taking the gift. keep the gift.
2007-01-05 11:19:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋