I am kind of a shy person, and I would like to become more outgoing. Any suggestions????

Answer 1

I totally understand how you feel. I am so shy or I was so shy. Over the last 2 years I have gotten so much better but it was a conscious decision I had to make. I primarily date really out going men and all of my friends are very out going. You know what helped me? I had to learn to take control of every situation. when I go anywhere I am constantly observing or seeking out things going on around me and I have to remind myself that no one is a stranger. I really have to work hard on overcoming this crippling shy ness. I would suggest you take control and be at ease in your own skin look at people from the point of view " they want to talk to me" I think it is more about developing self confidence then anything. ! Good luck
Kourtnie D

Answer 2

*Feel free to talk to the people you meet
I'm a shy person but am slowly starting to break apart from that. I've learned that if you just go out there and take a chance then you'll slowly break from the shell of being shy. Like, I used to be so shy that I wouldn't say anything to the people that my friends would introduced me to. Now, I ask them how they are doing and try to make a small conversation with them. You don't have to become BFF with every person you meet though.

Also, another tip I can offer to you is:*Take every chance you can to meet people
I sometimes get scared at the fact of being around people that I don't know and try to stick around with the people I DO know. But I try my best to take every chance I can to meet new people. It can be scary sometimes but sometimes you meet some really cool people and they change your life or you get a chance to change their life. It's one of the greatest feelings there is.

Lastly: *Whenever you feel hesitate about becoming more outgoing-just swallow your fears and do it (talk and become outgoing.)
I don't know about you, but I used to get extremely scared that I would make a fool out of myself or something and feel scared about getting the courage to go up and talk. But I've realized that it doesn't matter what people will think of me or if I mess up. I've realized that "swallowing your fears and doing what matters to you" really works and the more you do that, the more outgoing you will be.

Good luck and I hope I helped!

Answer 3

I used to be a very shy person and at times, I would still consider myself one. However, one of the best ways I found to overcome my shyness, and those uncomfortable feelings of talking with people, was to try something I never did before. For example, I signed up for a soccer class at my university. The class was intended for beginners but it turned out I was one of two people who had never played before. Everyone else had played for 2-10+ years! I didn't think anyone would want to help me but it turns out everyone of them did. I think people love teaching something they love to others, so naturally, many of the other students in my class were really open and willing to talk and teach me the game. I became great friends with everyone and become confident in my beginner's level ability of soccer. I think anything new that you learn can only boost your confidence and help you over come your shyness.

Also, if you are of a working age, I suggest you try to get a part time job working in some customer-service interaction role (for example, work the customer service counter at Barnes & Noble). This will help you get accustomed to talking to complete strangers and may help with some of your shyness. In fact, any job that requires you to interact or ask questions to customers is a good thing. I mean the job may suck, but at least you are going to force yourself to talk to people and that just maybe the step in the right direction...

Regardless, I just recommend doing something that puts you outside of your comfort zone. Once you put yourself out there, more than likely you will like the results or outcome of the situation and you'll feel proud that you did put yourself out there.

I hope this helps you!

Answer 4

Find something you are good at, I mean really good at where you are almost an expert on it. Then find current friends that are also have the same interests. Then expand from there, you won't be out of your element because you know the subject/topic/interest and you will also gain confidence with new people that enter your circle and people will see that. Then you'll have to beat off all the new friends with a mallet!!! lol

Enjoy!!

Answer 5

I was a very shy person at first then I said if people don't like me for how am then.Gust try and be yourself.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Hang out w/ the most outgoing friends you have.

Answer 8

i'm a shy person to. however, you have to crawl out of your shell and face the world. its not being shy, its being scared. remember the most famous question in life, whats the worst then can happen?

Answer 9

Get more friends and tell they you want to be more outgoing. Maybe they can help you. Get friends to get friends for you who will get friends for you. This may not work, but oh well.

Answer 10

try to mingle with different people but be sure that those people will be a good influence so that you will earn self-esteem and be more outgoing.

voice out what you feel, and i think trust yourself because if you will do that ofcourse you will be a pro-active person.