Me and my friend got into this fight.. WHO is at fault / the bad person?

Question

ok. this is going to be long. so read it all.

Today in my class I was doing something on the computer (its a video editing class) and someone else in my group was on the other computer. So, the other person who was working with me goes "where are the pictures" and i said "i don't know..they weren't there when i opened it"
Then the other person working on the other computer says "oh right because you Fuked it up" (and i honesty did not) So, she ALWAYS says things like this to me too, but i just let it go, but i'm getting sick of it.
So, i say "no.. really it was honestly like that when i opened it" and she is just like "sure.. OKAYY" . So then i said "shut up no i didn't" so then she is like "*** you don't tell me to shut up.. blabla why don't you do something for once? all you do is sit on your *** and do nothing" (which is NOT TRUE, i do lots of things in that class (she always says this to me too, like all year, and im getting tired of it) So, then she gets up and ......

Goes to sit down with the other people who aren’t even in our group and watch them. So then I say “oh yeah, I do nothing just like what you’re doing right now??” she said something like “you fking do it, since you don’t ever do anything becides sit on your ***”, but I really was doing stuff on the other computer and I was like “uh no, im doing something else. You are the one who started that keep doing it” so she comes back over and keeps working on it, but she is still being a bit*h. So, she starts calling me gay. She says stuff like “you’re a ******..I like men and so do you” and all this stuff like that. NOTE: she is just saying this to piss me off..she does this a lot, like just say sht like that to piss people off.. So im kinda pissed at her already so I decide that I’m going to give her a little taste of her own medicine

(now, she is a very small person.. like size double zero and stuff.. and the school nurse has been giving her lots of sh*t about being anorexic, like she has called down all of her friends and talked to them about how she is conserned that she is anorexic, and I know that this really gets her upset and it pisses her off..) So, then someone who had been out of the room came in and sat down with me at the computer and she says to him “you know (my name) is a ******?” So then I said “You know (her name) is an Anorexic *****??” then her friends were like “GGGGGGGGGAAAAAAAASSSSSSSSSSSSSSSPPPPPPPPP” because that REALLY does get to her, (and I really only said it to piss her off, because she was doing the same thing to me) so she gets all mad, and she is like “im going to kill you” “after class in the hall way im going to ******* kill you”

so im like “OH YEAH… OKAY” every time she said that.. lol so she takes an empty water boddle and whips it at me, but it didn’t hit me.. it went right past my face and hit the chair of the other person on the other computer to the left of me that I was on.. So then her friends tried to control her and stuff by having her sit down somewhere else.. like 3 feet away from me they were just talking to her and she was like “hes a scumbag blablabla I am not his friend anymore” blablabla and then I said “You know I was just giving to you what you give to everyone else…and YOU CAN’t HANDEL IT” And that is the truth, really, I was just doing what she does to people..say stuff to piss them off..And she has done this SO many times before this, and I don’t get mad at her at all.. she is so stupid, and hypocritical.

Don’t you all agree?
And then later all throughout the day when I had other classes that she was in, she tried to do STUPID things to piss me off, like she threw sugar packets across the room at me during class.. And, from the corner of my eye I could see her stairing at me waiting for me to look at her, and I knew that she wanted me to look at her but I was ignoring her, because she WANTED me to look at her..and the last thing that I wanted to do at the time was something that she wanted me to do..so I kept ignoring her.. AND, in my class there were only 2 people to get an A on an essay that we wrote. so the class wanted to her to coppy our essays and share them with the class as an example of “how to write an A paper” kinda thing, So, she had them read them first and guess what the grade was, but pretty much everyone knew that it was mine.. because they had already went over the other A paper.

But when the teacher asked her what she thought the grade should be for that paper she says “I gave it an F” just because she knew it was mine.. and she kept picking out the dumbest things.. even though that it was a really good essay, and it really did get the A. (she didn’t get the other A, she probably got like a 60 because she sucks at writing essays, EVEN THOUGH I gave her EVERYTHING that needed to be in the essay in a message over myspace… whatever I guess some people aren’t smart at all. SO, basically, who is the bad person here? Me or her? I think she is, because she is being the biggest hypocrite that I have ever known. Yeah I called her anorexic, but maybe her telling me that I don’t do work in that class gets me equally as mad. I’m just more mature with my anger and I let it slide..she is just a ***** for not letting it slide like I do.

AND i do not want answers like "its both of your faults" that is BS. I would not have gotten in this argument with her if she was such a ***** being like "do something you don't do anything"

But i need people to agree with me or else this will bother me.

And do not answer this question based on your beliefes of "how men should treat women" Just because i did something that crosses the rules of treating a woman dosen't make her right. seriously. god.

Yeah, i was standing up for myself! ANd you know what is even better? this girl always says to me "you need to stand up for yourself more" OK.. so, what now? its only ok for me to stand up for myself when its NOT against her?? wtf!!

yeah i was thinking of starting a list of when ever she does ***** things like this, and also keeping a list of the things i do to her (which is like NONE becides for this incident) And the showing her it and being like "are you acting fairly?" NOPE!!

yeah when i said "I'm only giving to you what you give to everyone else, and you can't handle it" they were like OOOOhhhhhhhgghghghhh im sorry honey...but (my name) just DISSED YOU.

And i didnt want them to react like that .. i mean I am being completely serious and that is the truth about how she is acting...

The whole class was watching us too. and they were like OOOOHHHHHHHH.

And by the way, the only things that she ever has to reply to anything that i say like that for example is "OMMMGGGG YOU ARE A FAG YOU ARE SO GAY" EEEEEhhhhhgbhghgh that is the only thing that she has to resort to -- "YOURE GAY" its so stupid~!!

Answer 1

well you were right that was pretty long it 's actually the longest question i've ever read on answers. my eyes actually feel strained.-lol
no its her fault. she shouldnt have provoked you. if you've been trying to brush her off and she keeps verbally attacking you what else could you have done?...
but on the other hand think about this. my closest friend deliberately gets on my nerves sometimes. and he does it in public sometimes. now he's bisexual and a lot of times it's burning me up and i just want to tell the world that he is and insult him with it. but i choose not to because even tho he might not be acting like a good friend at that moment i figure i'm not desperate or stupid enough to be that immature and stoop to that level. so i just ignore him. amd pretend like i don't care. you know wen you just keep saying "mmhmmm yea thats interesting/fascinating" every time they start talking and eventually he gives up. yet still there's a certain point where i'll blow off at him but there is still that onething that one part of his life that i will never use against him. becaue at the end of the day he won't be mocking or insulting me forever and eve tho its a public show to make ppl thik that he hates my guts and looks at me like every other person in my class i know and he knows that we're close friends and regardless of the sh!t we say that will never change. unless of course i were to betray his friendship and use his deepest darkest secret against him.
but then again if you actualy came on answers to determine if you're right or wrong it means yo feel bad about saying she's annorexic out loud so you're starting to think its your fault and you need tens of oter ppl who dont personally know you to affirm that its not. as a matter of fact probably half of the ppl who answered don't really cae about your problemnd just want the 2 points(whooptedoo)from answering. but then again thats just what i think.
what really matters if how YOU see the incident and from which perspective YOU BOTH look at it. personally i think its her fault but you shouldn't have called her annorexic even if it she started it and that was your best ammunition and your last resort. but if you didnt say it it would end up like the other millions of times whenshe said that stuff and you wouldn't have this problem now would you?
well i'm saying all of this to say: ask yourself that question. look really deep within the goodness of your heart(And if you are a spiriual person or just believe in an omnipotent being who controls the universe regardless of who you think he/she/it is) and ask the divine(best word for this being regardless of your religion)and yourself :
ARE YOU AT FAULT?

Answer 2

It seems this girl as alot of anger in her. It seems tome that she does stuff just to get the attention to her. The way she talks to you is horable for one if she is your friend than you need to tell how you feel when no one else is around if anyone else is around she will act like an bit*h because she wants attention. If shes not your friend ten to one she dying to get people to like and or follow her. She uses you as a the pull. Some people might not want to pass her so they just laugh at her, but maybe if you come back at her with a rude comment about her that they think is funny they will laugh at her, that will maybe make her shut up. Or it could make her really mad.
If you have not alot of friends it maybe why she picks on you.
So I would try talk to her and tell I don't like the way you talk to me. Please stop.
But dont do anything that would get you in trouble.

Answer 3

Fire doesn't start without a spark. You played a part too in this. Knowing the person she is, you should'nt have responded to any of her abuse. Simply cut off your communication and friendship with her. When she keep attacking you, and you don't respond, people will see whose the real a**hole in this case. With her kind of attitude, I doubt she'll have anyone by her side by the end of this year. Cheers, bro!

Answer 4

please what ever you do, don't resort to revenge (unless it is stuffing peanut butter in her locker right before gym)(and don't do that either!) you shouldn't get in trouble for the sht she's pulling, tell her to back off, if she doesn't resort to mob action. If you can get a group of people together and tell her that she is acting like a b****. Maybe you should record her acting this way so you can really change her around

Answer 5

Good grief, are ya'll in the 4th grade or something? But when you told a girl to shut up....that's the detonation button for the bomb. Never tell a girl to shut up unless you're ready for the consequences. Really tho, with friends like her, who needs enemas?

Answer 6

both of you guys gotta grow up
and you were just standing up for yourself so its not your fault

Answer 7

it is both of your fault because it takes two ta argue

Answer 8

girls life is to short to fight over dumb things . just think about this. good luck

Answer 9

definetly her fault. you didn`t even do anything to deserve that!

Answer 10

Well, it's your friends fault!!