Me and my significant other have been together for 2 yrs. We love each pther to death but, he has lost my trust and my faith more than one time (3 to be exact). I have no more faith in him but, I have alot of love. I told him I don't trust him and he says he doesn't care b/c he isn't doing anything to lose it. He didn't cheat definitley but was close enough to it. It's a long story but, should I trust him once more and try the relationship again even though he does not respect own important trust is to me, or should I just move on? When I am with him I don't feel the connection I used to feel. Could it be because of my disappointment and resentment? or b/c it is really time to move on?
2007-01-05 10:48:22 · 14 answers · asked by peachyprincess07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Time to move on. I was married to my wife for 5 years. Every year something popped up that dwindled my trust in her. Nothing like cheating or anything like that, but still.......... It hurts to leave someone you want to love, but they just keep hurting you. Even tho they don't mean to. It's been almost a year now, and it's better for me, but each person is different. Love is a harsh emotion. It has no feelings, even tho you do. Bottom line is, you can't live with someone you can't trust.
2007-01-05 10:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by unclewill67 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex-husband did cheat on me, numerous times. We were together for over 4 and a half years. I feel for you. First off, if there is no trust there can not be a relationship. You can still love the person dearly(I know) but w/out it the relationship is doomed. Secondly, if he disregards your feelings then he really seems as if he does not care about you the same way you to him. The decision is yours to make of course but follow what your gut tells you. Good Luck
2007-01-05 10:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by snowball24life 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a girl with very happy 10 year relationship. I recommend you read men are from mars women are from Venus. It helps make you understand men (and women) and explains all that stuff we take the wrong way. I had trust issues with my partner for the first few years because I was insecure and so afraid of loosing him. He has never done anything that would logically make me mistrust him. And if he hasn't cheated and the rest of the relationship is good then stick at it at least until you have read the above book - it has saved relationships!!!
2007-01-05 11:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by Prawnsize 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a VERY important part of a relationship. In order for a couple to have a long-lasting, stable relationship, you need to trust each other... you need to be able to KNOW for certain that he is making decisions that are for your good, and that you both are working together.
I would not continue this relationship. I was in a similar relationship with a serious boyfriend, and when I knew that I could not trust him to make good decisions, or not to lie to me about them afterwards, I knew that it wouldn't work out.
Good luck.
2007-01-05 10:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by wnk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've only been married 2 years and he's already trying to cheat, he probably eventually will. If he doesn't care about your feelings than you should move on. Get out while you can. Maybe before kids?! Find someone more worthy of your love.
2007-01-05 11:19:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
without trust there is no relationship and no amount of love can or will change that fact. It could very well be the disappointment and fact that he did whatever he did that has made you not feel the same sparks. Broken trust doest that.
2007-01-05 10:52:11 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The lack of trust has created barriers in your relationship. Him not caring that you don't trust him is a big red flag in itself. It ought to bother him, and he should try to regain it. What should you do? Without HIS co-operation, and concern, and trying to make it work, there's not much you can do about it except either, live in it, or leave him. Give it another year, and if NO changes occur, leave him.
2007-01-05 10:56:07 · answer #7 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like me we've been together for over 2 years and were engaged my mans done some stupid stuff but not like cheating but i duno but anyways abit of me doesnt trust him but theres more love than that so im still with him and i could never leave him..but heres what you can do...write out a pro and a con about him and whatever has more do what you think is the best
2007-01-05 10:53:07 · answer #8 · answered by sexc_baby 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
3 times? move on
2007-01-05 10:55:36 · answer #9 · answered by *never give up* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust him and you stay you are wasteing you life, there is a reason for the distrust, sooner or later it will happen again and you'll just get hurt and move on.....who needs the pain?
2007-01-05 11:03:29 · answer #10 · answered by chosen37 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋