Should i forgive my wife for calling her ex?

Question

My wife called her ex b/f and lied when i confronted her about it. Should i forgive her for it?

Answer 1

of course forgive her. There could be many MANY reasons why she wanted not to tell you. You trust her to make the right decisins right? Then forgive and forget it.

Most likely she just needed some reassurance or advice from someone who knew her well. Sometimes women just need to keep some things to themselves, it doesn't mean anything bad, just secret for them.

She's your wife, enjoy the relationship.

Answer 2

There is a certain lack of communication here. It is obvious because your wife lied about something that has now aroused even more suspicion. If I were you, I would sit her down and explain that I was aware of her phone call and ask her why she felt the need to lie about it. Wait for her answer and then remind her of your relationship as husband and wife and that what she has down has thrown suspicion over your ability to be open and honest. It might not be anything, but since she was caught in the lie (she probably knows). Communication - that's the key. And yes - you should forgive her. If you don't, you might as well say goodbye to your marriage. When you marry someone, just remember, you didn't marry Ms, Perfect. People will make mistakes. The question is - they need to learn from them. But you must forgive. It's for your benefit not hers. (you don't want to hold unforgiveness in your heart at any time.) I pray it blows over and the two of you can get back on track.

Answer 3

As a wife, I am going to go with yes. As a human that loves another person, then I will go with yes again. I got mad at my husband before for calling an ex and for calling another girl. i forgave him. I trust him, so I cannot go without forgiving him. Lying about it? Well, i say you can forgive her that too. But, seriously, something must be discussed, because if there is nothing going on, then there is no reason to lie. Right? Unless, she just wanted to call and knew you would disapprove no matter what. BUT! If she knows that, then she should not call anyway. Forgiveness is good. Trust is too.

Answer 4

If given enough time she would eventually cheat on your with this guy or even several guys. If this is the type of woman you want to be with then by all means "forgive" her and just have a few broads on the side. Remember, what's good for the goose is likewise good for the gander. Just enjoy your life and do what you feel you must. I'd try this out first before cutting off the relationship and thus going weeks or even months without any nookie. She's proven she's not worthy to be faithful to since she's trying to hook back up with her ex. Just note that you'd have to keep any mistresses you have discrete and not let her (or anyone that knows her) find out. Never mind that she's wanting to (if not already is) cheat on you. In their demented minds just because they're doing it doesn't give you the right to. lol Pathetic.

Answer 5

You'd better back off if you want to stay married.

What makes you the dictator-in-charge of her life. You're married to her but you're not her boss or her dictator. She is an independent person and she can do what she wants.

Are you threatened? Jealous? I would put forth that you do not trust her. And if you do not trust her you are breaking the commitment you made to her when you married her. Love honor and cherish until death do you part - that is a commitment that you made.

Trust is necessary in a marriage and you don't trust her. You had better think about that before you do something like that again. She lied because you backed her into a corner. Back off.

By the way there's nothing to forgive.

FP

Answer 6

You should forgive her, but you're going to have to get to the real reason she called him. She does need to answer for her actions, she is your wife after all. That doesn't mean you have to forgive her right now, but as long as she's sincerely sorry for what she did and wants to go in the right direction, I'd forgive her.

Answer 7

When you said your wedding vows, did you mean thenm? If you did then I don't see how you could not forgive her. You have given yourself to her till death and her to you. I am not saying then you should not get to the bottom of it and find out why the Hell she called her ex...I am just saying if you really want to spend the rest of your life with her.....if you really love her.....then you have to forgive her. Of course, it takes both of you working at it to make the marriage work so it just depends on if you are both willing to work at it. Many married couples have made it though way worse situations and end up having a great marriage. Check out this link..... http://www.family.org/marriage/MarriageCrisis/

I hope everything works out for you.

Be blessed,
~Dawn

Answer 8

Well, she has some explaining to do cuz she wasn't being honest with you...
That's what a relationship is all about, communication...
I would see why she did that and tell her that it upsets you and you dont like being lied to...
Since she's your wife, you should kinda make her work for your forgiveness...

Answer 9

Why did she call him? If it was just as a friendship call I think you should forgive her. She probably lied about it because she was scared that you would get upset and think that she was up to no good. It may have been purely innocent.

Answer 10

Well if you really and truly care about her you will forgive her. It is uncool that she lied to you about it or maybe she was afraid to tell you about it. Hopefully her intentions were not bad but then again she had to try to hide something about it. Or maybe you can change the situation around on her to see how it makes her feel...go to a strip club....