This pervert wont leave me alone.?

Question

He's friends with my parents and won't leave me alone. He says theres something about me and he loves how mature I am. Okay great but he is too old for me. Well not necessarily, its just that I cant look at him that way because he's friends with my parents. I couldnt even IMAGINE being with him. I always tell him how this other guy we know, is a pervert but he keeps doing everything that the other guy does! I make it clear that I'm not interested but he lives down the street and wont stop coming here acting like it's to see my parents. He left today to go on vacation. I thought I was free...but HE KEEPS CALLING ME! (he got my number from my mom who had him call me before to see where I was at, she didnt think anything of it but apparently, he did) I never pick up and he keeps leaving messages. What do I do

Im over 18 and not scared, just annoyed.

I do ignore him...ALLOT and he asked me if I could ever picture us together and I told him no as clear as possible then he said I was stuck up and arrogant lol I dont see how he DOESNT get the picture. Honestly.

Answer 1

you need to tell your parents about him. this one guy used to bug me too. at first i thought he was pretty nice and i didn't mind being his friend. later i found out he liked me and he just got gross and perverted. i wanted absolutely nothing to do with him...NOTHING. i didn't even wanna be his friend anymore becuz it got to the point where he was an obnoxious pervert. he wasn't friends with my parents or even knew them but i'm a good student (don't get in trouble...EVER) and i asked my teachers if i could be moved away from him. of course they agreed but also asked why i didn't wanna sit by him anymore. i told them that he was being a pervert and i wanted absolutely no part in it. he got in big trouble and i can't say i felt bad for him. i think he actually deserved it for not stopping when i told him to do so. he's left me alone and rarely says anything to me. i'm sure that if you tell your parents that his visits aren't becuz he's being friendly but becuz he's been bugging you with dating him then i'm sure they'll put a stop to it. okay so i saw that you're over 18 but this is a situation that you most likely need help in. when you get around your parents and he's around ...say out loud "i'm sorry _____ but i don't want to date you." say it in front of your parents so they know what's going on. tell him that you want nothing to do with him...dating...NOTHING. he might just get the hint. change your phone number if you can. next time that you're with your parents make sure that you tell them about his unwanted attention towards you and how numerous times you've been trying to make him leave you alone. good luck!

Answer 2

For what you describe, you are a victim of sexual harassment. If you are a minor, you MUST talk to your parents inmediately, don't wait.

If you are 18 or more, you have two choices. You can still talk to your parents so they can ask the guy to stop harassing you, or you can file a complaint with the police. If he follows you and calls you, and follows you, the guy is a STALKER, and there are laws against that. Get a RESTRICTION ORDER to keep him away from you, and if he gets anywhere near you again, you can call the police and he will be picked up and placed in a nice confortable cell, surrounded by hundreds of men, with no women around. That will teach him a little lesson about harassing women.

Answer 3

Doesn't seem like he knows that you are talking about him. Seems that he doesn't know that you are NOT interested. If he does know, then call the phone compay and report his number then take that to police for a police report. No time for NICE. Nice is not being nice to you. Right??? No is not a bad word. Just mean it and say it once. After that, action

Tell him that you are NOT interested and that he is TOO OLD! Have you told your parents . . . . I would. He is not much of a friend to try comming to his "friends "daughter. He doesn't care about your parents being friends. So don't be concerned about that.

Answer 4

Well, if a guy, no matter who he is, will not get the point and stop trying to get with you; then you got turn on the rude-girl-act. I don't know what else I could do in your situation. Have you tried talking to your parents, then maybe they will do what the can to try not to encourage the guy. Then they will avoid doing things like giving out your number or telling him to stop stopping by so much. I gues a nother idea would be to get a boyfriend (real or not) and have him hang out so the guy thinks your taken. Good luck, chica!

Answer 5

Tell your folks that he makes you feel uncomfortable and that his attention seems inappropriate to you. Politely let them know that he may be their friend, but he's not yours and that you'd appreciate it if they didn't encourage him to have any contact with you.

Also tell him to leave you alone. Tell him NOT to call you. Not to contact you in ANY WAY. If he does so after you've told him not to you should let someone you trust outside of your family know about what's going on. In Canada we call in Criminal Harassment when you tell them to stop contacting you and they don't, I'm sure wherever you are has a similar law.

You didn't say how old you are. If you are under 18 I'd say go to a guidance counselor at school or a teacher you trust. If you are over 18, set your limits and if he breaks them contact the Police.

Answer 6

I am assuming you are a minor and that the guy is closer to your parents age, based on the information you have given. FIRST, talk to your parents about the situation and let them know how uncomfortable you are around him. Let them know he is calling you. SECOND, there is a stalking law in most states. Tell him or have your parents to tell him not to call you again. If he continues, file a report with the police department. If this guy is making you nervous, there is a reason...TRUST your instincts.

Answer 7

Lay down the ground rules with your parents as in who can have your phone number or not. That way you aren't getting calls from people you don't want to have your phone number. Because it looks like your parents need to be sensitive to your feelings.

Have you spoken to your parents about this at all? You should talk to them so that they know that you don't want your phone number given out to any one with out your permission.

Ask him kindly not to call you. You have to set boundaries with this person and tell them that you aren't interested in pursuing a relationship. Be honest with them and tell them that you aren't interested.

If this person still continues to call then put your foot down. Tell your parents what's happening and that you are scare that this person continues to pursue you.

As a last resort get your phone number changed just so that you don't get phone calls again from him. Make sure that if your parents have your phone number that he doesn't get it.

I hope this guy doesn't know where you live because the last thing you want is him ringing your door bell.

You have to be careful with people who are following you around like that mainly because you don't know what they are capable of when they get angry or upset. The last thing you want to do is have a stalker on your hands. Be careful.

Answer 8

Old Buffalo's Like Young Grass

Answer 9

I'm having a similar problem with a woman who is stalking me. When I go for a walk she is there. Just stalking. Not even saying hi, Just stalking, and when I go the computer, she is stalking me there too. I thin k she has put cameras in my house too. Why? My like is sooooooooooooooooooo boring too.

maybe we should get those two people together so they would leave us a bit of peace and quiet and privacy. What do you think?

Answer 10

Tell him very clearly to cease all communication with you, let him know that his advances, attention, calls are unwanted. Advise him that if he persists, you will get a restraining order, the order will prevent him from contacting you as well as being with X number feet of you, your job, and your home.

If he continues, then your next step will be calling the police and advising that he is stalking you.

Tell him all this first, he should get the hint!!