I am considering becoming a surrogate mother and would like others opinions on the subject. In particular I'm thinking of doing this for a gay couple
2007-01-05 10:29:49 · 7 answers · asked by hthr_1974 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
it depends on why you want to do it. is it a spur of the moment idea or have u really thought long and hard about it? you need to ask yourself if you could mentally handle having a baby and giving it to someone else, and how you'll be able to handle it if you dont like the way they parent the baby that you had (since it wont be your baby anymore-and u have no say in it). you also need to decide if your going to be around the baby on a regular basis who you'll be to the baby(mom, aunt, friend of the family, etc.), and what if the couple u have the baby for decides to move away how will u feel about that.
i have a friend that wants me to be a surrogate, but i wont do it because i couldnt have a baby and give it away, and i dont think she's all that great of a parent either, these are things u need to consider!
i'm not trying to discourage u, but please think about all the "what if's" before u get pregnant if thats what u so choose.
but if in the end you chose to go through with it and u can mentally handle it , then i think its a great idea.
GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-01-05 17:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by its just me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is wonderful to do something like that for someone else. You are giving them something they would not be able to have. But you have to be a certain type of person and you might realize after it's too late that you aren't that person. What happens when you form such an emotional bond with this baby, give birth to it, and then have to give it away? A lot of people can't handle that. there are so many pros and cons to weigh before making a decision. You also have to consider the fact of the couple being gay. Do you believe that it is okay for two men to raise a child? I would just carefully think about it and don't base your decision solely on the fact that you will be getting paid.
2007-01-05 18:38:11 · answer #2 · answered by Good Gushy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i worked with a woman who's daughter became a surrogate. She enjoyed being pregnant and already had 2 children of her own and felt it would be great to give this gift to a couple. Just make sure that you talk to a counselor so there aren't any complications later. good luck. it will make you feel good and the monetary compensation will be helpful, too. I am not saying that is wrong, it is just another perk. good luck with what ever choice you make.
2007-01-05 21:12:16 · answer #3 · answered by be calm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is. I've thought about it myself. However, I don't think I could follow through with it. There are so many people who want children and for whatever reason can't. There are many couples would like to adopt,but the process can be drawn out and expensive. Good luck!!
2007-01-05 18:44:41 · answer #4 · answered by Blu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a very good idea. There are lots of people that cant have kidds and dont want to addopt and especially gay couples. I think its a good idea!!!
2007-01-05 18:37:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
its a great idea, very un-selfish thing too do. i think the hard part about it would not being able to keep the baby. But i wish you the best!
2007-01-05 19:36:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that would be good
2007-01-05 18:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋