2007-01-05 10:22:00 · 15 answers · asked by gail e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband's family was very mean to me when we first got together. ( I had done some bad things and they knew about it). What hurt me the most was that he never stood up for me. He had forgiven me, but his mother and brothers treated me horribly. I finally stood up for myself, but it still hurts to think about.
2007-01-05 10:27:51 · answer #1 · answered by Josi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 3 year affair after 30 years of marriage. I am still trying to let it go. It was only about this time last year that l found out about it. I have forgiven him as l truly love him but l'm not sure about the forgetting part of it, maybe I'll never forget but we are working through our problems and doing really well.
2007-01-05 10:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biggest thing I ever forgave my husband for was verbal and physical abuse while drunk. He stopped drinking, and stopped being that 'ugly' person I didn't recognize.
Yes I have let it go as he has kept his promise to not drink, and made life changes for our family. He is an alcoholic and the rage was brought out with his desease. I would not have let it go, if he hadn't made changes. ( i was hesitant for a long time)
I would have been the one gone with our daughter . I never wanted her to see her daddy like that.
2007-01-05 10:30:00 · answer #3 · answered by butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nicely, the perfect i can say is this. in case you truly opt for it to exercising consultation and also you opt for to stay mutually, then you truly've to placed some time and idea into right here. Now, you need to be very reasonable and honest with youself in this. First, how have you ever acted in the route of her? have you ever been the husband that you're meant to be? next, you would possibly want to imagine about all the undesirable things you've done, from little white lies to stealing an ink pen. imagine about that things you've done which have damage others, regardless of in case you probably did not propose them to finish that. you may comprehend that you at the instantaneous are not thsaint you imagine you're. she also might want to forgive and study a thanks to act appropriately. she would might want to respond to for each second and each and each and every problem she does. She ought to earn your believe. If she is unwilling to attend to it that way, oh nicely, ditch her. Adultery like something else might want to be triumph over, provided both events are keen to artwork at it. that's going to take time and exertions and tongue biting. i might want to not do it, yet some can.
2016-10-16 23:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I had a spouse I didnt forgive him for NONE of the bullshtt he did because sure were human and make mistakes but forgiving an assshole for repeatedly getting caught while trying to get over on me is NOT in the cards.
2007-01-05 10:36:38 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband had a bad habit of cheating I let it go the first couple of times and then the last time I let him go, some change some dont it just depends
2007-01-05 10:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by Dareisha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We overcame infidelity at the beginning of our relationship. That was over a decade ago. And while so many folks are saying "You never forget", it CAN get to the point where "You no longer remember".
The trick is, you have to LET it. You can't keep harping on it and picking at it so the scab and pain stay fresh and bloody in your mind. You can't keep wielding it like a club to beat your partner senseless with when you fight. You have to LET IT GO, realize that it's the past and can't be changed, and MOVE ON.
You can't go forward with a relationship if you're constantly looking back.
2007-01-05 10:34:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Obviously.......cheating seems to be your concern... yes you can forgive him, even if you decide it's over. Because while you forgive, you'll never forget.
Overspending is the only thing my deceased wife ever did.... I didn't need to forgive her, because she beat herself up enough. I loved her enough to realize, people make mistakes.
The big mistakes are hard to live with, but you can still forgive them as you say goodbye.
2007-01-05 10:28:23 · answer #8 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stealing a lot of good gold medieval jewelry and gemstones and selling it all to a jewelry so he could get money for crack. No. I've tried to; but I can't forgive him. I miss the pieces still. They were one-of-a-kind and cannot be replaced.
2007-01-05 10:27:03 · answer #9 · answered by Iseult 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have let many of my husbands little white lies go but I am 8 months pregnant now and my husband decided to leave me. I believe this type of thing is unforgiveable!
2007-01-05 10:46:52 · answer #10 · answered by I♥Karma 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋