He's three months old and I want to go have drinks with my husband and our friends like we used to before he was born (we're 24) but I can't help but feel guilty. My sister is keeping him for us tonight (it's date night) and I'm so sick of 'being good' but I know that as soon as I start feelin' it I'm going to start feelin' like a bad mom.
Tell me I'm just being silly so I can still enjoy being young..
2007-01-05 10:21:32 · 20 answers · asked by ... 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Making the same mistakes: It's not "growing up" I'm very grown up. I'm a sahm and I spend every second with him. This is our first 'date night' since he's been born. I don't think it has anything to do with maturity..
2007-01-05 10:27:36 · update #1
Thanks for all of your responses. We decided to just go see a movie and come back.. not because I felt guilty, but because I didn't feel like it anymore.
I know that I shouldn't feel bad in later situations, though..
2007-01-05 17:36:12 · update #2
There's absolutely no reason you shouldn't be able to have drinks, and you shouldn't feel bad about wanting to enjoy yourself. It sounds like you haven't had any drinks since your pregnancy - and since your son is now 3 months that would be a year right?
I think you should have drinks if you want to; just make sure that you "pump and dump" your milk if you're breastfeeding so that your son isn't affected by your blood alcohol level. I'm not sure how long you need to dump for - I'd guess 2 hours for each drink, but don't know for sure.
Enjoy your time out - you deserve it!
2007-01-05 10:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by Sukay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT FEEL GUILTY!!! Believe me you need the break.... Most of the time you will be out thinking about what he is doing, and talking about him... Try not to. I know it is hard.... I am a SAHM also.... and had my first at 19. second at 21 third at 23 and fourth is due in April (i am 26) I went out after my second was born two days after we were our of the hospital!!! The first time is the hardest, believe me. Try to remember you want to foster an independent spirit in your little one, and not have him stuck to your hip all of your life. You need to get away from him, even if only for an hour or so. Doing this early starts his Independence by allowing him to realize... Hey mommy is coming back! It also lets you relax and join the real world... which grounds you to let yourself realize you are someone else besides a Mommy 24/7. You need to feel that in order to be a better parent for your son. Relax, take a cell phone (just in case!), and let yourself have a good time, even if only for an hour... in the end you will feel much better about yourself, and in return be a better mommy!!!!!
2007-01-05 19:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by trippinwurmz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out you were pregnant for 9 months. Sometimes you need a breather. A new baby can bring stress to your relationship and not because you have a bad relationship but maybe you guys are cranky from the baby keeping you up. So go out have some grown up fun. As long as you don't start doing a Britney Spears it's okay!!!
Enjoy Have a drink for me too!
2007-01-05 18:38:41 · answer #3 · answered by SALLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not feeling silly. You are feeling like a responsible mother. You do need some time for yourself so go drinking with your husband. Have a fun time and be assured that your child is safe and that you are doing a good thing for your mindstate. Sure, you are a mother 24/7 so why not have a one hour break as long as your son is being taken care of?
2007-01-05 18:27:51 · answer #4 · answered by l_onious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad...enjoy yourself. Just make sure you "Pump and Dump" if you're breastfeeding so that your baby doesn't get the alcohol too. Oh and also...the drinks will hit you a LOT harder than before you got pregnant so go slowly. You don't want to end up sick and hungover, pumping and dumping, and taking care of a little baby tomorrow.
Have fun!
mari
2007-01-05 18:28:42 · answer #5 · answered by mari m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a bad mom if you go out one night with your husband and friends for a few drinks. You need to get out and get some fresh air. My definition of a bad mom is one that goes out to the club, gets sloppy drunk and leaves her kids with whoever will keep the baby. You need some adult time so don't feel guilty.
2007-01-05 18:26:05 · answer #6 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Listen, you're entitled to be around grownups once in a while. Let him hang out with his Auntie every now and then... it's not a bad thing. It'll be a big treat when he gets a little older.
I wouldn't come home completely plastered or puking, but go out and have a good time tonight. Date night is a good thing. Keeps you from wanting to kill your husband. =) Plus, you get to converse with people who talk back! =)
2007-01-05 19:50:08 · answer #7 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. I can't stand when mom's act like they are so much better for spending every second of every day with their kids then the rest of us are. A date every now and then is a wonderful idea. Get out and have a good time.
2007-01-05 20:08:20 · answer #8 · answered by Lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey we all need breaks. The fact that you feel guilty shows that you are good mommy. Try to enjoy your evening out and time with your husband: you two need your time too. Your son will be ok and your sis will enjoy being able to spend time with her nephew. Have fun: Im 10 wks pregnant so have a drink for me please!
2007-01-05 18:32:13 · answer #9 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought you were gonna say you just had him last week. I was ready to snap.
But seriously, there is nothing wrong with going out and having fun every now and then. Dont let it bother you. Especially since you have your sister watching him you have nothing to worry about.
Have some fun time for yourself. Baby will be OK.
2007-01-05 18:42:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋