As you may have seen I also have another brother who has passed away from a question I asked before. All together I have 3 brothers. Alright this question is about the middle one who is 21 years old.
Well let me tell you that this brother has a problem. My family thinks that he still uses drugs meaning pills. He has had this problem for awhile now probably a couple years. We all tell him we love him and all that stuff. He also steals money from my parents and me included. He recently today took over $200 from me (I am only 14) and my parents were saving this money for a school trip to Canada later this year. I love my brother very much but I just don't know what to do anymore. I know he has to come to his own decision about making this stop I just wish there was something I could do.
I mean he will go on a streak where he seems to me all okay and doesn't steal anything and we think he is getting better but then he just does something stupid again.
2007-01-05 10:20:36 · 7 answers · asked by :D 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
He has been to treatment place before too and they do not work he has come back 3 times! He also still lives at home.
I am just afraid for him and what may happen I don't want to loose him. Have any of you been through before, please tell me how it turned out. This is serious too no silly answers.
2007-01-05 10:22:19 · update #1
My parents are kicking him out of the house tonight I think and are going to call the police if he comes back and get a restraining order against him, so they are trying. They have kicked him out before he just comes back and pretends like nothing happened.
I'm only 14 so talking to him makes no differance to him I mean unless you know from first hand experiance I can say whatever I want but it won't change him HE HAS TO DO IT ALL ON HIS OWN
(and he has been to differant places not just the same one)
2007-01-05 11:48:13 · update #2
Like you said, obviously the treatment that he has been receiving is not working. Maybe your parents need to send him to an out of state rehab clinic that will keep him up to 3 months or more. He needs to be away from temptation, and away from contacts that might be enabling his behavior.
You need to realize though, that if he doesn't want to change, no treatment will work. Sometimes, a drug addict needs to hit bottom and lose everything they have before they can look upward. Once they choose to recover, it is a lifelong process. he will always be a "Recovering Addict". It is a mental illness that can be overcome, but will always be present.
Good luck to you. You and your family are in my prayers.
2007-01-12 05:17:18 · answer #1 · answered by Phoenix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what your parents are doing is smart. I mean, he steals from his own family. That's sad. Get a restraining order, keep him out of your life. Yes, he's your brother, but he's not being a very good one. He's screwed up his life and his old enough to take care of himself. I don't think there is really anything you CAN do other than to encourage him, talk to him, and just love him. Do not give him money and listen to whatever your parents tell you to do if he tries to go home. It sounds like he's already taken all the chances he can have to make up to what he's done to your family. Send him away. Have you ever considered a military school? (LOL - sorry, it's just an amusing idea). Don't worry..sooner or later something will work out. Meanwhile, just live out your own life and look forward to that trip to Canada. It's pretty nice up there. Very nice actually. Well, hope this helped. By the way, where in Canada is your trip to? =D
2007-01-05 20:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your definitly right your brother has a serious problem. Can you talk to your brother about this one on one? Let him know how you feel about what he's doing and that its not right to steal or do drugs. Telling him that you love him is good, but it seriously won't help the problem your brother needs professional help, there are places out there that can help him. But don't send him back to the same place he went before. Its hard to have to sit back and watch something like this happen, but there's really nothing you can do other than be there for him and let him know you care about him and love him.
2007-01-05 19:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by Bill S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your parents about this and maybe even a counselor (all together and/or seperately). Your parents need to step in and tell him he needs to go. No one wants to or should have to live with people they can't trust. Hopefully if he is pushed a little he may learn but it won't happen as long as he's being enabled and he wants to get better himself. You are too young to have to go through this alone...i hope things get better for you. If your parents won't make him leave, maybe u can tell them to let u go stay with a favorite aunt or grandparents....push them a little to make a choice.
2007-01-05 18:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by Steph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your parents about the issue. Let them know your honest feelings, especially if they are open to listening to what your concerns are. Like the previous person said, maybe he shouldn't be living at home anymore. He can find a roommate, maybe to afford an apartment.
2007-01-05 19:09:46 · answer #5 · answered by tinkerbell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys should put him in a unit. after my brother died i still had 5 other bros and 2 of them had to go to a unit, for well over 2 months. thats the only thing we could do
2007-01-05 21:16:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right, he needs to make the decision to change on his own. so be supportive to him, but you also need to protect yourself. You can get a joint bank acct with your parents to protect your money. I would highly advise it.
2007-01-05 20:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by crazyjmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋