Do I tell her I think he's cheating?

Question

I'm a nanny, and the couple i work for let me use there computer to go online for my personal use. When I'm done, I delete the history. I'm not doing anything inappropriate, I just like my privacy.

The last few days, I've noticed a lot of hard core porn sites, as well as sites like ashleymadison (for married people who are looking to cheat), adultfriendfinder (for casual sex), and lavalife.

Being a nanny, i feel a sence of loyalty to the wife (who I see more often), and i don't know if I should keep this a secret.

It's one thing to say I should mind my own business, but I can't tell you how many times I've heard about the wife finding out about the affair AND finding out she now has an STD because of HIS affair. If it was me, i would want to know.

So, should I tell? and how should I tell?

Answer 1

Well if I was in this position, what i would do is. Since they let you use their computer for personal use, I would say something like [and I’m assuming they trust you and you don't lie so...] "I was on the computer and after I was done I went to delete my history because I like my privacy and I noticed some websites like [whatever they are] and heard they are for people who are considering cheating on their spouses. I don’t mean to interfere with your personal space I was just a little concerned."


hope this helped :)

Answer 2

I think you should tell, but be prepared to loose your job. You don't know what her reaction will be. She might take his side, but at least you forwarned her. That is all you can do. This is a sucky situation. Good luck.

Answer 3

I think you should leave it alone...it is not your business, unless she asks. Besides...you have know idea, it could be her websites, or they could be on there together...they could make you a proposition you weren't bargaining for...keep it to yourself.

Answer 4

You shouldn't be snooping; shame on you!