I love my husband with all my heart, but when he started gaining weight, I didn't mind... at first, until he jumped 6 pant sizes started to look like me when I was pregnate. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but it really is beginning to bother me that he doesn't seem to care what he looks like for me anymore. I don't want to seem shallow or conceded or anything, but he use to care so much about his "rockin body" and "tight abs" and so on, but since we've been together for so long it doesn't seem like he wants to look good for me anymore when I try so hard to look my best for him.
2007-01-05 10:03:34 · 17 answers · asked by Elizabeth 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honestly, the best way to do this is lead by example. I agree, cooking different items, changing what you keep in the house will help, but ultimately, he will need to change when he WANTS to change. Someone told me once that nagging wouldn't be called nagging if it really worked so I don't think that's an option for you either. If you do decide to talk to him, do it gently and with lots of love and respect. Coming from a health standpoint would probably be the best thing. Good luck!
2007-01-05 10:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is large muscled, 180 lbs is good for 5'10". I am 5'10' and have been told not to go under 190lbs due to my muscle mass and bone structure. If his build is more slight, and he's not doing any physical activity, then asking him to accompany you on walks, hikes, and even a picnic in the park to play frisbee, might help him move. Perhaps you can ask him if he's feeling alright. If he asks why, tell him the truth; he's tired all the time and playing video's instead of getting exercise. But to hint that he's getting fat would probably rebound and cause him top resent the remark, and you in turn. Just like quitting smoking, you can't get someone to diet until they're ready.
2016-03-29 09:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting...usually its the guy asking this question. I guess the another question may be asked, why is he gaining weight now if he was very good about taking care of himself in the past? Did something happen recently like a death in the family, or he hates his job, or maybe he turned 40 and realized life isn't that long anymore? Girls aren't the only ones with emotional challenges. Guys just won't say much about it because it makes them look weak. See if you can find out if there isn't something that is bothering him and making him give up on taking care of himself. Solve the underlying problem in the head, solve the spare tire problem on the hips.
2007-01-05 10:14:21 · answer #3 · answered by Jerry M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, gaining weight is unhealthy too, so perhaps you could approach him from that point of view. Tell him that you've been worrying about his weight for several months now and wondering if there's anything wrong that he's not wanting to talk about. Tell him that he's much too young to let himself go like that. Even better, start working out yourself, especially going for walks. After a while, if you get serious about it, it might make him think twice. That's what happened between my brother and his wife and now they are both very physically fit and spend more quality time together as a bonus.
2007-01-05 10:08:49 · answer #4 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come out and tell him, honey you are putting on weight. I don't want to say this to hurt your feelings but if I don't say something now you are going to be enormous in no time and I just want you to know that I love you and it's not healthy to be putting on as much weight as you have so quickly. Let's both work on staying fit as I don't want to lose you to a heart attack or something.
I wish my husband had pointed that out to before BEFORE he started dropping all the hints as to how much weight I had gained. It would have been easier to pay attention to the fact beforehand than try to resolve it much later.
People can get absorbed in other things and not take notice. Maybe he is stressed or something is going on and you should BOTH be doing things to exercise together...long walks, bike rides, etc.
2007-01-05 10:09:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-19 08:26:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way you can tell him to lose weight without hurting his feelings. So you need to decide: do you want to spare his feelings, or is this all about you and him having to look good for you?
2007-01-05 10:06:13 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to tell your husband anyhing with out hurting his feeling. But its not all aboout his weight or looks its about his personality..... but still tell him that he gain a bit of weight maybe he won't mind its worth iving it a try.
2007-01-05 10:07:39 · answer #8 · answered by catwomen322003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should say to him that you are planning to go walking everynight or something and that you want him to join you, that way you can help each other and he will be none the wiser. Who knows you both may loose weight even if you didn't need to!
2007-01-05 10:07:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you husband is really that bad off sit down and talk to him tell him its not looks but your afraid its effecting his health it will show him you really care without hurting him.
2007-01-05 10:11:17 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs.Payton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋