Should i be she is not a slut or anything and i haven't said anything to my husband yet do you think it's a good ideal?
2007-01-05 10:00:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I wish my wife would...
2007-01-05 11:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
****. Is the word lesbian or bisexual now a bad word.
If she has any tendancies towards other girls (You specificaly)she would probably enjoy the chance as long as she also had the occasional fantsay about your husband. What you should ask yourself is, can YOU deal with your husband sleeping with another woman (especialy your girlfrind). If you can honestly say you wouldn't mind it than approach HER FIRST and sound her out. Most woman are BI courious at least once sometime in there lives and this might give her (and you) the freedome to try it out and still have a man around incase it doesn't go the way you think it might. Besides a GGM threesome leaves someone out. A MMG threesome doesn't
2007-01-05 11:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by Julie Hartford 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it strange how reading one word just a little bid different from everyone else can vastly change your answer? The first read on this, I read "girlfriend" as meaning your extramarital significant other. Then I read the other answrs here and they seem to assume that you mean girlfriend as in a female friend. My reading probably comes from having a bi wife who clearly distinguishes between her "girlfriends" and her "friends."
So if you mean what I'm thinking you mean instead of what everyone else thought, that you have an extra-marital significant other, then I would ask her about it first. If you ask her to join you and your *husband* and she says no, then that's the end of it, because if she asks you to join her and another man you can say, "No other men, just my husband, thank you," and if she brings up the request you made, you can just say, "Yes, that was my husband." But if you go to your husband first, he might expect that if this one says no, then the "next one" could say yes, creating an expectation. Then when he finds out that there's no "next one," it could confuse him.
If she's just a friend, then I would say talk to her about you and her first, before bringing up the husband. Before me, my wife had a threesome experience where she invited another girl to join her and her boyfriend, and it turned out the other girl wouldn't touch her, just her boyfriend and it was very dissapointing. Make sure you and her are on the same page as to what you expect out of each other, and out of your husband. Then once you've got that clear, then go to your husband and lay down the ground rules established when talking to your friend. Don't assume "he wouldn't do that anyway" about anything. If you don't make it a rule before he does it and tell him the rule, then you can't get mad at him for doing anything that would upset you. Making a rule after the fact is very bad and a subtle way to destroy your credibility to your husband.
2007-01-08 04:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK... here is the thing there is always 2 sides to every coin.. my BF did this with another friend of ours and she became extremely jealous in the end. She isn't the jealous type but it is a hard thing to block out of your head that he may want another woman... Then again it could be a one time thing and all could go well. But do you really want to open Pandora's box!!
Honestly I tinkled with the idea of doing it with my boyfriend so I took him to a strip club to see if I could handle him getting a lap dance in my face. We sat side by side and everything was great at first. he was focusing on me while watching her.but then when his eyes connected with hers and I could feel the lust building and I saw the same look he gives me when he wants some loving & he was no longer focused on me.. I felt like I wasn't there for a moment.. this pain hit my belly for a brief moment...
I knew then... leave well enough alone. Don't take the chance of ruining something great.... if you do decide to do it.. DON'T USE YOUR FRIEND... HELL PAY SOMEBODY.... KEEP THE GIRL AWAY FROM YOUR HOUSE AFTERWARDS!
2007-01-05 10:09:15 · answer #4 · answered by LOLA 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are 100% sure that even if she says "no" it won't effect your friendship, than sure. But, I'll tell you, it's easier to make friends out of swingers than swingers out of friends. Adding sex to a previously non-sexual relationship completely redefines that relationship. Adding friendship to a sexual relationship is not a problem because that part has already been established and the parameters of the friendship/relationship as a whole is well defined.
2007-01-05 17:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine asked his wife to have a threesome and she agreed. she liked it so much that she left him for the other girl. now she is a full time lesb-ian.He got more than he bargined for.
2007-01-05 10:04:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a wonderful Idea. You should invite another friend over too just incase one has a change of heart.
2007-01-05 10:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by Itrvl2much 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her and may I also say what a lucky husband!
2007-01-05 10:26:22 · answer #8 · answered by Pink 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, your husbands body belongs to you, right. So, you can share it with whom you want. Your body now belongs to your husband, so would he share you with another man?
2007-01-05 10:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by Kalistrat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure, go ahead. Maybe your husband will fall in love with her and they'll run off together.
2007-01-05 15:46:16 · answer #10 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
3somes are awesome but i dunno about bering ur gf into it. its better with a person u will never see again so no chance of sneeking away to do her again. are u ready for it? surely he will want u 2 to do each other. its great.. but only if ur ready :0
2007-01-05 10:14:33 · answer #11 · answered by marta_f4f 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋