Why am I like this?

Question

I feel horrible. When ever i'm around my best friend I tend to be super serious and more moody, and I get sick of her so easily. Me and her have been friends since like 8th grade and for the past year now i've found myself more angry and blah around her.

I mean 24/7 she is always complaining about something or whining about something. Everday she is tired...yes I get that but she doesn't need to say it 20times a day. And that's all she does, complains about little things over and over again Carrying books,tired,psychology homework(for an example today,we have to read 3pages and she's been complaining about it since)

i've told her that she needs to stop complaining about little stuff like that and she's like THIS IS HOW I AM YOU NEED TO LEARN TO ACCEPT ME. I was just telling her that there is so much worse things in the world. She just doesn't get it at all. I'm 16 years old, she's the same age as me.

She already seen a doctor for the whole tired thing and everything came out fine.

But I feel like the worst friend ever for acting like this. I mean...how sad is that I can't even tolerate my own best friend?

She has lots of friends too. She's very talkative and everything and she's the one telling me to be more positive and that I should only bring up positive things about her. that's why that everytime I mention it she goes into this episode at being mad at me and saying that I don't appreciate who she is and that i'm the only one that doesn't accept her for how she is.

Answer 1

Sometimes people's feelings about each other change. Maybe it is time for some new friends and a break from this one for awhile.

Answer 2

You can really only do one of two things. You can accept her as she is and continue feeling miserable around her. Or you can refuse the next opportunity you have to spend time with her. When she asks you why, you tell her that you accept her as she is, and you choose not to feel down all the time by being around her. If she pursues it, feel free to say that her negative outlook and sour attitude make you feel rotton when you're with her. Leave her with that to think about. Chances are you will lose the friendship, but maybe at some point she'll realize you are right.

Answer 3

Tell your best friend that her negative attitude is pushing people away from her. She needs to practice being more cheerful whether she feels cheerful or not. If she will practice thinking on good things, laughing and find the good, she will be a happier person and more people will want to be around her.