My friend's boyfriend has been seen snogging, necking, touching up and holding hands with another woman on several occasions.
Shall I tell my friend?
2007-01-05 09:38:14 · 25 answers · asked by B K columbo123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My sister was the one who saw the bastard. My friend lives with him and they a have a son. My sister thought they had broke up!
She would not lie.
2007-01-05 11:47:43 · update #1
As long as you have the facts and which you do...tell her..if you get another opportunity take a pic of him on your camera phone. Because if you don't get a pic of him doing the nasty..that loser will deny..deny and deny to his girl and call YOU a liar...so get the facts and PROOF...good luck to you!
You go girl and get the cheating bastard!
2007-01-05 10:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if your friend truely trusts and believes that her boyfriend is faithful, then by telling her he may claim that you are just jealous of what they have. if your friend loves her boyfriend totally, then she will most probably believe him. they say love is blind.
i would probably approach the boyfriend with your suspicions. you say he has been seen, but you don't say by who, how many times and if there are other possible motives/games at play. ask him and gauge his reaction. it should give a clearer indication of whats going on.
only if you are absolutely sure that he is unfaithful, you have clear proof and you know your intenetions are best for friend, then tell her (after giving him a clear time line in which he could tell her or finish with her himself).
be prepared either way to ride a rough time in your friendship, because you really are in a no win situation right now. whatever happens, bear in mind that your friend will probably be more angry at herself than you, but will react out of emotion. then, the only thing you can do is not antagonise the situation, bite your tongue and be there for her when she realises she needs you.
play things VERY carefully.
good luck
2007-01-05 11:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by lillyflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should, I know that if i was her i would definitely want to know. Just make sure you know that it is true first though! She may accuse you of lying at first or she may not accept it but in the end she will and shes going to need a friend to support her and get her back on her feet so make sure you're there!
2007-01-05 12:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by AnGeL01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's your best friend, or a very good friend, yes, you should.
What are friends for hey?
She will be angry, possibly with you, as the awful messenger, but...
As a very good friend who is doing what's right by her friend, you can take it.
Don't go and advise her on what to do; I mean if she thinks her man deserves another chance, it's her call.
If she thinks he doesn't well.
I do think that you should tell her, then if she decides to dump him, you should encourage her to at least confront him; but that's as far as the advice should go.
The rest is up to her.
But, yes, definitely. That what friends are for. xx
2007-01-05 10:39:06 · answer #4 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend was me, please do. She may be wasting her time. Life is short. Let her down easy or she will resent it. Why not ask her the same question? Then take her answer. That way she'll get the message without being hurt you told her because you are concerned about her feelings. (If she acts like she doesn't care, be nice to her anyway, some of us have our pride)
2007-01-05 09:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes although it will probably hurt your friend to hear it its better than her finding out herself and then know you knew about it. it seems to make the betrayal worse cos not only does her rat of a b/f think shes not the only person in his life but she will think the same of you would you want her to tell you in the reserve situation? trust me i no my brother and sister knew my bloke was having a affair and didnt tell me his parents also knew and didnt tell me yet they came to my house for christmas and played happy familys and even though it was 5yrs ago and i got back with him i have lost a lot of respect for all that knew about it and never told me
2007-01-05 11:07:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. After all, their relationship could get more serious (at least on your friends part), and then it would be more difficult to speak out.
Its better to get this out in the open now.
2007-01-05 09:47:13 · answer #7 · answered by xyz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it incredibly is puzzling there is incredibly no super answer. initially you stated the pal continues to be friends with your husband so for sure you will possibly elect to be around him this might desire to be slightly awkward. 2nd, in case you have chose to commence this NEW relationship over truthfully then the previous relationship incredibly has not something to do with you presently the only challenge may well be in the experience that your husbands pal grew to become unhappy together with his spouse or felt to blame himself and instructed your husband...ouch. 0.33, in case you tell your husband now it is going to be for the marvelous reasons not for the reason which you experience so undesirable approximately it think of how he will experience! its egocentric. be careful.
2016-10-30 02:38:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you seen them or has someone told you?
if you have seen it then tell her
if its just what people have said then dont untill you seen it for real. if you do see it take a photo on your mobile so you can prove what he is upto.
you could stir up some **** and your friend could fall out with you.
2007-01-05 09:42:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i think you should, you'd want to know if it was the other way round wouldn't you, i know i would anyway. But only do it if you've seen it yourself not if its just summat you've been told
Good luck
2007-01-05 09:47:56 · answer #10 · answered by Shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋